How to Bond With People

Forming a bond with a new co-worker, in-law, college roommate or teammate is vital if you hope to have an enjoyable and lasting relationship. With a little research, planning and confidence, you'll soon turn those casual acquaintances into lifelong friends.

Instructions

1. Find out as much as you can about the other person. Get the scoop from mutual acquaintances or ask a lot of questions during your first conversations. Look for anything in your backgrounds, educations, work or family histories that you've got in common.

2. Go out to dinner or shopping together. They're both ideal activities to break the ice, and you may discover that you've got similar likes and dislikes.

3. Uncover a favorite television show, movie, author or music artist that you both like. Share compact discs and DVDs, discuss shows the day after they air or start a small book club. Head to the movies, attend concerts or go to book signings together.

4. Be a supportive and attentive listener. Friends will feel closer to you and turn to you often if they feel you're paying attention and offering sound advice about their problems.

5. Remember what drew you to your existing close friends and colleagues and apply some of those bonding ideas to this relationship. Create new memories, traditions and inside jokes to strengthen your connection.

Tips & Warnings

• Try not to take it personally if your new relationship just doesn't gel. You may discover character traits, beliefs or foibles about one another that will impede a successful relationship. Vow to be friendly in the future and move on with your lives.