How to Be a Good In-law

Perhaps the most common of all in-law complaints is that of the overbearing and interfering mother in-law. However, when you join your life with your spouse's you are forming many new in-law relationships; all of which can have their challenges. Read the steps below to learn how to be a good in-law.

Instructions

1. Understand that when you exchange marriage vows you are marrying into a family for better or worse. It is not acceptable to expect your husband or wife to sever relationships with family in order to have a relationship with you. Consider all of the people that will be part of your new life when deciding if marriage is the answer.

2. Respect the nuclear family when necessary. There might be times when family decisions need to be made and your opinion is not asked for or welcome. On these occasions remember that although you are part of their family, you're not nuclear family. Do not get hurt feelings if this occurs.

3. Avoid gossip. If you have a problem with someone in the family it is better to go directly to the person you have the problem with. It is not good to talk to other family members about the problem.

4. Encourage good in-law relations by including your in-laws in family events whenever possible. Invite them to the children's birthday parties and other holiday celebrations.

5. Talk to your spouse if the relationship with your in-laws is not good. He is the common factor between you and them and may be able to help you learn ways to bridge the gap and help the relationship to grow closer.