How to Be Happy About Being Unpopular

Being popular seems glamorous from the outside, but you can be happy about being unpopular by recognizing certain facts. Popularity is often based on perception and is therefore fickle. Reading and applying these simple truths can help you become assured in who and where you are right now.

Instructions

1. Realize that popularity is based on a set of factors you don't control. People are rarely recognized by their peers for things that matter long-term while in high school. Most popularity is based on factors that change over time such as wealth, looks and parental occupations.

2. Know that your appearance, financial situation and who your parents are don't define you. You're defined by your character and what you choose to stand for. The most popular girl in school could have a heart for underprivileged children or maybe she's a total snob. Get to know people for who they are and what they stand for. Look beyond appearances.

3. Laugh now. Understand that this is the only chance you've got. You'll only be in your grade for a year and your teen years will pass you by in a flash. It may not seem like it now, but you're going to laugh later in life about who you were growing up. You'll laugh at the popular kids and the unpopular kids. The things that seem unfair to you now will be valuable lessons you learned. Everything that's happening is teaching you a lesson. Be happy about the chance to learn. Someday someone will need the knowledge you possess.

4. Know that your refusal to compromise actually creates respect for you with the popular kids. They may not admit it to you until your 10-year reunion, but they're noticing who you are. They respect you for not compromising and are in awe of how you can be unpopular and happy. Most popular kids are actually unhappy because they're busy pleasing others and don't really know who they are. You're teaching them a lesson, so don't give up.