How to Be Social at a Party When Everyone is a Stranger

Most people dread attending a party when they don't know any of the other guests. However, talking to complete strangers doesn't need to be intimidating. Arm yourself with a positive attitude and the following tips to make your next social encounter with strangers both successful and enjoyable.

Instructions

1. Ask your hostess to point out a few people with whom you might share a common interest. A good hostess should happily introduce you to people who can provide easy conversation. After that, you're on your own.

2. Relax and be yourself. Nothing is more of a social turn off than someone who is exaggerated or false. The key to presenting yourself well is to be natural and comfortable with who you are and what you can offer.

3. Look for someone else who's alone and strike up a conversation. Hold out your hand and introduce yourself with, "Hi, I'm Beverly and I'm new to this group." Ask a brief question designed to elicit a response. Keep it as simple as, "How do you know our hostess?" Use this as a springboard to encourage more conversation.

4. Listen carefully to the person you're talking to. Respond to what they say. If you're busy thinking only of what to ask next, the conversation becomes nothing but an awkward series of questions.

5. Be aware of your body language. Smile and make eye contact. Turn toward the person you are speaking to. Lean forward slightly. Try to block out other conversations and distractions so you can concentrate on your new acquaintance.

6. Resign yourself to the fact that not everyone you meet will be open to starting a conversation with a stranger. Know when it's time to move on. End a faltering conversation with a short "Nice talking to you" and try again with someone else.

7. Position yourself near the food or drink table. You look busy and involved as you examine the offerings. This also provides a natural way to start a conversation: "Have you tried the egg rolls? They're delicious!"

Tips & Warnings

• Recognize that there will be pauses in a natural conversation. This isn't a cause for panic. Many people simply like to pause and reflect on what has been said before continuing.

• If you're unsuccessful at making new friends, offer to help your hostess with the party. The kitchen is often the social center of a party. You may meet others just like yourself. Serving food or tending bar is a great way to stay in the midst of the party without the stress of making conversation.

• Don't take failure personally. Often, it's just awkward to try to make conversation with a stranger at a noisy and crowded party. Remain confident in yourself and keep trying.