How to Accept Being Unattractive
There is no way around the simple fact that some people are unattractive. In a society that places so much emphasis on physical beauty, unattractive people are at a disadvantage. However, with time and a little work, this disadvantage can be overcome and even turned into an advantage. Read on to learn how to accept being unattractive.
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Instructions
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Making the Best of Your Looks
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Consider the possibility that you just haven't "grown into your looks." Many beautiful adults were unattractive as children and adolescents. Often by the time they enter college their maturity, poise and self-confidence help them grow into their looks.
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Remember this quote by La Rochefoucauld: "Some beautiful things are more impressive when left imperfect than when too highly finished." Actress Jennifer Grey had her nose "fixed" and has since admitted publicly to not being recognized and having difficulty getting acting work because there's now nothing to distinguish her from all the other pretty actresses in Hollywood.
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Treat yourself to a makeover of sorts. Get in shape, have your hair styled, take care of your skin, teeth and fingernails. Wear nice clothes that suit your body type. Other people may be willing to overlook an unattractive face if it's the only thing about you that's unattractive.
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Work on your personality. If you are cheerful, kind, generous, funny and smart, people will want to be around you. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said, "People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within."
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Remember that the older you get, the less attractiveness matters. In high school looks seem to mean everything but by age 30 even the most beautiful people are starting to get wrinkles and lose their hair. Oddly enough, wrinkles and hair loss are also attractive to many people. After all, beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.
Turning Your Looks to Your Advantage
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Sidestep stereotypes. Attractive people are often steered toward certain careers and lifestyles and they can find it difficult to be accepted if they "go against type." You won't have that problem and will be more free to decide for yourself how you want to live.
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Date and marry someone who finds you attractive for who you are inside. No one may be instantly attracted to you but you will find love among your many friends. Get to know someone and he/she will get to know you before you start dating which may make your relationship more satisfying than those of people who start dating a stranger just because of their looks.
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Be more successful. Attractiveness is often a crutch for people who know they will get more opportunities because of their looks. You may have to work harder for those same opportunities but hard work will take you farther in life than being attractive will.
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Tips & Warnings
Don't try to make up for your looks by wearing a lot of makeup or dressing in the latest fashions. It won't help. Instead, wear only what looks good on you no matter what everyone else is doing.
