How to Not Miss Out on Good Vibrations

“You know, I’ve always wanted to try…” my friend Ariana dropped her voice and looked around the restaurant cautiously, “a vibrator. But I’m worried that it will be so good that nothing else will be able to satisfy me,” “Oh it’s good all right,” I said, taking a sip of my mango margarita. “But it’s good like a margarita is good. Sometimes you want a margarita. But sometimes you just want a plain old beer.”

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

1. I glanced across the table at Ariana’s husband. Engaged in conversation with my husband, he had completely missed Ariana’s confession. “My friend,” I said, “you are missing out. You have got to get yourself a … margarita.”
   
   But it appears Ariana is not my only friend who is, gasp, a vibrator virgin. I conducted an informal poll, and I was surprised to learn that a number of my friends had yet to discover the pleasures of a vibrator. Though interestingly, each and every one of these friends also confessed to being intensely curious about what they might be missing out on.
   
   But they also feared that test driving a vibrator would be like opening their personal Pandora’s boxes, and that they would somehow come to regret unleashing this pleasure.
2. Much as I love Sex and the City, I wonder if the episode where Charlotte gets a Rabbit vibrator and subsequently withdrew from life, only to be rescued by her friends’ intervention, may have unintentionally done some damage to the vibrator’s image. It helped perpetuate the myth that a woman can become “addicted” to a vibrator and might become unable to find satisfaction with a partner (or, in fact, anything else life has to offer).
   
   This fear is probably based on folklore rooted in the idea that sex should only be for procreation and that too much pleasure is bad for you.
   
   The truth is that vibrators can induce mind-blowing pleasure. It is also true that it does feel different from the human touch. In fact, no person can move their hand (or even their tongue) quite like a vibe does.
3. But that doesn’t mean that a hand, a tongue or a penis don’t also feel good. In fact, a vibrator and a partner is not a one-or-the-other proposition. As my husband and I have happily discovered together, the two go wonderfully together. And don’t forget that men enjoy some vibration action themselves. For evidence, just watch his face as you rub the vibrator up and down the shaft of his penis.
   
   And while we are dispelling myths, just like too much sex can leave you sore, too much vibration can indeed leave you numb. But this effect is very much temporary. To be explicit, you cannot burn out your **** by overindulging. A little time away from the vibe, and all sensitivity returns.
   
   So are you ready to try your first vibe? Here’s a last tip. Your foray into the world of sex toys doesn’t have to be with a King Dong Dildo. You know, the kind of giant fake phallus that frequently is the butt of jokes at a wedding shower (and secretly intimidates half the guests). For a non-threatening buzz, try a dainty Purple Venus Butterfly or an I-Vibe Pocket Rocket.
   
   Then you’ll be the one naughtily whispering the praises of your vibrator the next time you indulge in a few drinks with friends.

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