How to Feel Great After a Breakup

You split with your partner and your world is ending--only if you let it. A breakup is actually a new beginning, where you can let go of the old baggage and start over with a fresh slate. A little attitude revamping, a couple of quick steps and a lot of positive affirmations can help you feel great after a breakup.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• Pen and paper
• Positive affirmations
• Places to go (optional)
• New haircut (optional)
• Friends or someone to cry to

1. Let the person go. Refrain from harping on what went wrong, what you could have done differently or what you can do to win the person back.
2. Make a list of all the person’s crappy traits, from the way he never listened to you to how he left other women’s numbers on the kitchen table. Paste that list on your fridge and smile every time you glance at it.
3. Make another list of all your wonderful traits and what you deserve in a boyfriend. These include someone who listens to you and does not leave other women’s numbers on the kitchen table. Paste this list next to the other one on the fridge.
4. Look in the mirror. Reflect on how beautiful you are, how you could get any guy you wanted and how you could be even more beautiful with a new haircut, makeover or a simple trek to the gym to relieve your angst.
5. Call friends to vent if you need to, but don’t keep them on the phone for more than 22 minutes or they will just get annoyed.
6. Get out and live your life.

Tips & Warnings

• Vigorous exercise and cleaning the house works well to get rid of depression, anger and crappy feelings.
• Write a poem, create some artwork and burn all photos of his ugly mug.
• Remind yourself you deserve better and you will not settle for some jerk who never listens to you or leaves other women’s numbers on the kitchen table.
• Play with your pets. They will always love you.
• Avoid rebound relationships. Give yourself some time to heal and breathe.
• Don’t frequent places the two of you used to go; that’s just torturing yourself.
• Don’t wallow in your anguish for more than 24 hours. That’s the wallowing limit unless you want to bore everyone around you, include yourself.