Difficulty: Moderately Challenging
Step1
Dress appropriately for the solemn occasion. If the memorial service is taking place after a substantial amount of time has passed since the death, attendees may feel inclined to wear less solemn attire as the service is meant to be less funereal.
Step2
Take your seat quietly. If you are a close family member of the deceased, you may be ushered up front. If you’d like to greet family, friends or acquaintances, make your hellos fairly brief and then make your way to proper positions. The speaker might have a schedule worked out.
Step3
Be supportive to those around you who experience considerable grief during the service. Offer a shoulder. Bring tissues with you to offer crying attendees. Support friends and family that get up to speak about the deceased. Emotions tend to escalate when a person has to articulate loss rather than just quietly feel it. Offer these speakers kind words, gentle pats or tissues when they return to their seats next to you.
Step4
Open your heart to your surroundings. Connect with those around you who knew and loved the deceased in various ways. All of you form a textile that the deceased had over the years crafted with his or her presence. Take in the scent of flowers. Focus your gaze on the photograph that has likely been placed in front. Don’t be afraid to let yourself feel, even if that excess has to exit your body via sobs, tears or even laughs if a speaker tells a humorous anecdote about the deceased.
Step5
Take time after the memorial service to greet and share stories with those friends and family that you didn’t get a chance to greet before the service. Remember to thank and compliment those who spoke with such heart and eloquence about the deceased.
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