How to Give Great Cunnilingus

And now, says Valmont, as played by John Malcovitch in the film "Dangerous Liaisons," as he introduces a virgin to the pleasures of oral sex, "For a little Latin," referring to the ancient Roman language name for two activities also celebrated in the famous 1960s musical "Hair," cunnilingus and fellatio—or as it’s more commonly known today “going down.”

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. The first thing to remember is that going down on a woman is a very intimate act. Don't attack. Be gentle, especially at first.
   
   The Kama Sutra suggests starting with a breath kiss. This is very seductive, particularly when performed on the gentle wavelike rise of woman's tummy as you slowly work your way down.
2. How do you do a breath kiss? Form a kiss with your lips, place your mouth close to your woman's body, and breathe a kiss-shaped, very gentle puff of warm air. It will linger on her flesh like the touch of rose petal falling on her ... and like hot fire. The key word there is breathe … you’re not blowing up a balloon. Just breathe through your pursed lips as close to her skin as you can without touching her.
   
   Breath kisses light slow coals that burn with your care for her. She'll offer herself to you. Move slowly, your lips close to her skin but not touching, warm your breath in your mouth a little before each kiss.
3. Sexual technique is like any other technique. It requires a bit of practice. You may want to try breath kisses on the back of your hand or forearm. It won't duplicate its effect on a woman, but you can get a sense of the distance necessary to make it feel warm and lingering. That lingering effect is what you want.
   
   Gradually allow the breath kisses to become feather light actual kisses. Wet your lips. Let your wet lips slide on her skin. Softly, now. There’s no hurry, although you’ll both feel mounting desire.
4. As you reach her pubic hair (or if she shaves, her mound), begin slight, light movements of your tongue. She may move her center to your mouth, seeking your tongue, but resist giving her what she wants right away. Tease her. Don't be aggressive or forceful right away. That's coming, so to speak. But the longer you prolong desire, the greater the pleasure later.
   
   Always, always, from start to finish, pay attention to your partner’s movements, her responses, what she likes, what is too much, what is too little, what makes her gasp or grab a breath. Bodies speak. Listen.
5. Some women love breath kisses, some love a tongue they can rub up against like bear scratching its back on a tree.
   
   Lap her inner thighs with your tongue. You know you want to anyway. If she hasn't shaved, draw little clumps of pubic hair into your mouth and tug them gently.
   
   She'll love it or scratch your face trying to maneuver you to the spot she wants your tongue and lips. Don’t resist too long when you feel her becoming insistent.
   
   Let your tongue glide inside of her, but don’t forget the ****oris, that bump at the top. You want to keep some pressure there off and on, if not continuously at first. Press the back of your tongue against it as you whip the tip of your tongue inside of her.
6. Try a little butterfly flutter tonguing: rapidly flutter your tongue side to side (gently, remember) or up and down. This is particularly effective applied directly on the ****oris (use just the tip of your tongue) when she wants to climax.
   
   Apply stronger pressure as you go, but again, pay attention to her, to her body, the amount of pressure she seeks, the amount she withdraws from. What motion is she seeking from you? How is she moving her hips? Does she want a clockwise or counterclockwise motion of your head and lips and tongue? Try both. Even if she obviously prefers one direction, try the other. Vary the stimulus.
7. Adult sex toys can add another dimension to your pleasuring. Try a tongue vibrator to give her an entirely different sensation. A flavored oil or even candy panties can help break the ice if this is something new for the two of you.
   
   If you find your lover’s scent a bit strong—we’re really not used to strong body aromas any more—try a strong scent you like. Mixed with the heady, if masked, aroma of her body, it can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
   
   A girl friend of mine once suggested I practice my cunnilingus technique on a ripe peach. It’s good for you, juicy, scented and a bit fuzzy. When the poet T.S. Elliot asked, “Dare I eat a peach?” he wasn’t really talking about fruit …

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