How to Date Later in Life

Dating is one of the most nerve-wracking experiences, especially if you are older and are just starting to date again after a few years or even a few decades. The uncertainty about where to go, what to wear and what to talk about can seem almost insurmountable. Here are some things you can do to overcome your fears of dating again. Who knows? It might be more fun than you ever imagined.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Be sure you're ready to date. Maybe you have recently lost your spouse of many years and you're not sure if you are ready to date again. There is nothing wrong with developing only friendships until you are ready to take the plunge into the dating pool. Don't force it. You'll know when you're ready.

2. Do things on the first date that encourages conversation between the two of you. Understand that the purpose of the first date is for each of you to decide if there'll be a second date. Think about going to the movies or a play after the two of you have gotten to know each other.

3. Don't think that this first date has to work out, because people are simply not attracted to everyone. Realize "there are many more fish in the sea," and it may take time to find that special person you can't wait to see again. Besides, that experience lets you practice your interpersonal skills and you will know more about what you're looking for as a result of it.

4. Don't let your grown children stop you from having a loving relationship. Some have a difficult time understanding that their parents are human beings with the same feelings and needs as younger people, so they may tend to discourage you from finding romance. Also, they may be concerned about someone taking advantage of you.

5. Don't carry a torch for your deceased spouse, once you have found another "significant other." To do so is disrespectful of that person and it will slow down your process of healing. You'll find that once you let go of your deceased spouse, there's a unique joy in discovering an equally happy relationship with someone else. And when you form that bond with another, you'll appreciate that person and relationship more than you ever thought possible.

Tips & Warnings

• Whether enjoying a lifetime of bachelorhood or re-entering the dating world after the death of a spouse, seasoned citizens still want to have love and romance in their lives. Maybe all seniors aren't looking to marry again, if at all, but friendship does have its rewards and single seniors enjoy making those connections. After all, life does go on after 55.