Things You'll Need:
- Self-nurturing
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Step 1
Plan something special for your birthday. Give yourself something to look forward to that takes your focus off another year passing without a baby on the way. Whether your plan is eating out at a nice restaurant or taking a weekend getaway, make sure it is something that will make you happy when you think about your plans.
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Step 2
Acknowledge the good things in your life. People who are struggling with infertility have a tendency to see their lives as "all bad" because they do not have the child that they deeply desire. However, you likely have good things going on in your life, such as a good marriage, fun friends or a rewarding career. Take time to celebrate the good things that have happened in the past year.
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Step 3
Meet your friends for lunch. Laughing with friends or crying on their shoulders can be very therapeutic as your birthday approaches. Choose friends who are likely to lift your spirits rather than those who are more likely to drag you down.
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Step 4
Set aside time to grieve. It is normal to think about how disappointed (or devastated) you are to face another birthday without a baby on the way. Give yourself permission to cry, punch pillows and do anything else to help you process your emotions.
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Step 5
Receive well wishes from others. When people are in pain, they tend to push away the good intentions of others. Make an effort to receive well wishes. If someone wants to take you out for your birthday, then accept the invitation. Try to let their love for you help you feel better about yourself.











