How to Prepare an Older Sibling for Twins

Welcoming the arrival of a new set of twins into the family is exciting but at the same time can create a certain degree of anxiety among the older siblings. Parents can greatly reduce the older sibling's anxiety over the arrival of the twins.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Involve the older sibling in the progress of the twins while they are still in the womb. Allow her to feel mom's tummy when the babies kick, take her to ultrasound appointments and explain the different stages of the twins' growth by reading a magazine or book with her that teaches about the birth of twin babies.
2. Encourage her to ask questions or share her feelings about the arrival of the twins. Acknowledge her feelings and take time to listen and talk it through.
3. Have her help pick out names for the twins from a list of names that you and your spouse have chosen. Shop for baby clothes and other needs together as this will help her feel that she played a part in getting ready for the twins.
4. Tell her honestly that the new baby twins will need a lot of help when they arrive. Explain that they will need lots of nurturing, love and care and that you will need her help with the twins.
5. Show excitement and be optimistic; your positive attitude will rub off on her.
6. Set aside one-on-one time with your older child after the twins arrive. Always remind her that you love her just as much and that she is special even if it seems like you are spending a lot of time caring for the new babies.