How to Give Your Marriage a Tune-Up

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By AdamMack07
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Marriage is a sacred bond that two people share, it is a journey and a process of discovery. A marriage needs to be groomed and nurtured if it is to grow. Here are some helpful ways to give your marriage a Tune-Up.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Patience
A sense of Humor
A committed heart
Love for one another

Step 1

KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE A SACRED TRINITY
The success and growth of a marriage rests upon understanding that a love relationship and marriage exits between the two people making the vow, and God who cultivates and supports the foundation of that Love Relationship. Be sure to cultivate a positive spiritual balance as an understanding that we are more than just physical beings. Explore with each other the spiritual side of who we are and keep God at the center always. In today's world, marriage can be difficult, and there are temptations everywhere. Knowing that your relationship is held together by a common spiritual bond helps to keep you on track.
Step 2

VERBAL AFFIRMATION
The little things in a marriage matters. A smile, a kiss, a hug. Let your partner know that you appreciate them, that they are welcomed, that they are doing good and are needed. Sincere compliments help to solidify the foundation of love relationships. Remember to think of your partner and what is best for them, their needs and wants and desires, and try to honor them.
Step 3

WRITTEN EXPRESSIONS
Notes of encouragement and of affection are helpful reminders that your partner is on your mind and in your thoughts. This helps to strengthen your partner's value and worth and helps to build up trust.
Step 4

STAY SELF AWARE NOT SELF-CENTERED
Selfishness can turn a good relationship bad really quickly. Remember that love is Patient, Love is Kind, Love is not Envious or Boastful, or Arrogant, Love does not keep a record of wrongs and it does not insist on its own way. Be aware of your own needs and desires, but not so centered on them that you insist on having things your way. Compromise is the key and understanding is the doorway to a lasting open dialog which will lead to a successful relationship.
Step 5

EXPRESS CONFIDENCE AND PERMANENCE
Find creative ways to show your partner that no matter what, you are with them for the duration of the marriage, that you intend to fulfill your vows, and you will not let arguments and obstacles hinder you from expressing the love that you have. Let your partner know that the love between you, entwined with the spirit of God, can not be broken by things of the world. Show your partner how important they are to you and the importance of that relationship.
Step 6

SWITCH ROLES
To shake up the monotony do things differently. Let the other take control or do the planning, or try something different. Be willing to allow yourself room to make mistakes as this is how we learn and grow. Do not fear obstacles or change or tragedy, for it is in these things we find our strength and are able to grow.
Step 7

THINK... THEN SPEAK
Always be mindful that words carry authority behind them. Think and think again before you speak in a way that is degrading, negative, or puts your partner down. You want to uplift your partner with your words while conveying concerns or feelings.
Step 8

ENJOY YOUR MARRIAGE
Marriage consists of responsibility, commitment, dedication, understanding, devotion, and so much more. The most important thing of all is that it is a gift and a blessing to be able to share yourself in such a way that you and your partner become one flesh and one mind. Enjoy each other, cherish every moment together. Appreciate one another.