How to Gain Confidence

Have you ever felt like your invisible? Worst, have you ever felt that you can never measure up to the popular kid, co-worker, friend etc. Well, I'm here to tell ya' it just isn't true. It's all about the confidence inside of you, and the perception you carry of yourself. If you believe in yourself you will find that others will too. I once was unsure of myself, and these are just some of the steps I took to reach higher levels of self esteem I never knew I had.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• An Idea of who you want to be, what you want to represent, and who you want to idle you.
• A good hairstylist,
• New, bright, colorful clothes.
• and a positive outlook.

1. Low self esteem can come from anywhere, even from home. Step 1 is the most important step, in this step you must take a moment to reflex on yourself. Think about it, who are you? What makes you who you are? What do you represent already? And, who does it matter to what you represent? These are all very important questions, if you have no answers to these questions you haven't valued yourself enough. So, as part of this exercise I will ask that you take a pen or pencil and a notepad and/or brainstorm words, ideas, or thoughts of yourself. Anything that comes to mind will do. Usually the first thing that comes to mind is the truth about how you see yourself, and in order for this to work, you must reveal your true thoughts.
2. Socialism is key to confidence Rip that paper up! This is not who you are, it is no where close to who you want to be, and it certainly will not help you gain more confidence. Confidence is not about who you want to impress or who you want to get revenge on, although, at times revenge is the best motivation, confidence is about what you believe you can do, thinking of it for negative reasons will only inspire a negative outcome. Part of change and confidence is built on the essence of purity and positive outlooks. I know this all sound like Crap, but its true, if you can't see the good in people, the good in you, the good in the bad things that happens around you, you will always sink back to your ways of inexpressive and solitaire. So in this step I need you to take a deep Breath, look in the mirror and tell yourself that it is a new day and things will be better from this day forward. Imagine who you can be, imagine what you want to accomplish, if you visualize the new, confident you, it will help you realize your outlook faster. What kind of person will I be? How will my change affect my social life? Who do I want to notice me? How much dedication will it take me to get there? How important is this for me, and my future to make my self esteem go from none to plus quickly? Most importantly, how soon will I begin seeing life in a better light?
3. We will definitely need a new paper to write on. Close your eyes, and think of what you will look like, what your personality will aspire. Can you see yourself? what are you wearing? who are you hanging out with? Write it all down, style, hair, makeup (if any). What do you want your social life to look like, write that down. What do you want to intellectually feel when spoken to about a random topic? write it all down; words, feelings, colors, these are all important. Now look in the mirror again and tell your self you are worth more and you know it, you can make a change, the change is there already. You are important, witty, meaningful, and lovable. It may sound crazy, but it works.
4. IMPORTANT STEP: BEGIN THE TRANSFORMATION. First of all change up your hair; do something new and exciting to it. Believe it or not hair is a big confidence booster for both men and woman. It may seem like only hair, but it can bring such impact and response to your life that it will inspire you to feel better almost right away. Find a color, style, cut or accessory that you like. Look through magazines, even though, I don't recommend aspiring to look like a celebrity or model, it can help to look at there fashion, hair styles and looks. If anyone holds more confidence in front of a camera it is those people in constant public eye. Once you have figured out what you want your hair to look like; DO IT! Don't try to go at it in a cheap manner and do it at home for yourself unless you know what you are doing. Their is nothing more rewarding than pampering yourself. I didn't for years thinking that it was foolish and shallow to do so, but it is not, it is exciting and new and incredible. The feeling you get when you feel different, you feel as though people notice the difference and they are all looking at you with approval. When you get your hair done, request a mirror and stare at it. take it all in, admire it. I bet there will be no greater moment then this. Then walk out with confidence
5. Next step is Clothes; if there is one thing I know it is the type of clothes someone with low self esteem wears, remember I was once one you, Black and dark colors are the majority of the clutter in our closets. At times, I would think to myself, but I love black, and it has nothing to do with low self esteem, it is sliming, and sexy and elegant. The truth is, I never really believed it, because I never really saw myself in that way. That is why I am telling you, get out and buy new clothes with color, I know. I know. It isn't easy considering that you don't wear colors often and wouldn't know where to start. Your thinking what colors would go right with me, my personality, my new character? Good thing you wrote a list of ideas of yourself earlier. Use that as inspiration. If you are limited in funds go to a second hand or goodwill, with patience you will find what you are looking for at an affordable price, oh, and don't forget the shoes that is just as important as the hair. Important tip about buying clothes, whether you are skinny or overweight buy clothes that is appropriately fitting. Nothing too tight or too big, either one will make you look foolish and your confidence will go back down before you ever allowed it to come up. A way to know is if the clothes isn't appropriately fitting is if it doesn't feel comfortable when you sit, it is probably too tight and if you look like you are sinking in your sleeves or waist people can tell you're hiding something. Find confidence in what you wear.
6. Find conversation with anyone in your circle or outside of it. Anything will do, you will be amazed at how many people want to get to know you. Don't be afraid to be part of the mix. One of the main problems in society is that we feel so left out and we allow to be locked out of all the social circles. Don't allow yourself to feel different or lower to anyone. You are important too, and your thoughts are just as special and rewarding to others. Making one new friend a day will make you feel confident in no time. This means hanging out in new places, surrounded by new things, new coffee shops, schools (if appropriately aged), clubs, libraries, etc. The world is a big place don't be afraid to explore it.
7. imagine the posibilities Have fun with it, be loud and spontaneous, and grateful for every moment of it. Thank people with a smile, it is contagious. Love everyone, no matter what you may not agree with. Jump around feel foolish at times, hold your head up, and never let anyone tell you your not important or too weird, because in the end of all things we are all different and we are all important. Confidence is believing, and the notion of you believing in yourself is what will get you farther in life than you can ever imagine. Or, better yet, imagine it and you will and can make anything happen

Tips & Warnings

• Pampering yourself once a month can keep your confidence boost high.
• Never forget where you came from and the morals you carry
• And never say NO, Can't, Won't unless held at gun point.
• I am not a medical professional of any kind. The advice given does not always mean success, for the most part the desire must come from you. I am simply passing on the knowledge of my own experience and triumphs. For those of you who like it Keep an Eye Out for more of my Articles in the future.