How to Deal With a Passive-aggressive Person

Procrastination may be a sign of passive-aggressiveness.

A passive-aggressive personality displays negative feelings, resentments and aggression, but in a passive, unassertive way. Such people deal with their anger and problems in a manner that is both passive yet aggressive. Much of this may involve procrastination or stubbornness. They may perform tasks for you, but expect certain actions in return.

Things You'll Need

• Patience
• Understanding
• Self Control

Instructions

1. Understand that a passive-aggressive person resists the demands put on him by others. He often refuses to do something and puts it off or makes excuses about doing it. This personality trait makes it difficult for him in the work area and his social life.

2. Try to be supportive as much you can when encountering this type of individual. Do not let yourself feel guilty for her. It is her problem, and she needs to learn to control it herself. You cannot control her, and her behavior is hers alone.

3. Do not allow such people to get away with this behavior, but make them feel comfortable and able to talk to you about it. For example, do not accept forgetfulness as an excuse. If they can open up to someone they trust, it can help them to calm down, relax and be open about their problems.

4. Confront them, if you catch them being dishonest or making excuses. Bring it to their attention. Letting them know that you are aware of the issues at hand will let them know you are not going to deal with it. If you ignore their behavior, it will only reinforce it in their eyes, and they will continue to act this way.

5. Don't immediately reject his demands when they are reasonable. Find a balance or middle ground to gain his trust.

6. Explain to the person that medications and counseling can help alleviate the disorder, although there is no cure..

Tips & Warnings

• Know when enough is enough

• Don't let anyone push you around or lie to you

• Deal with them in a kind way

References

• Ask Dr. Robert: How Do I Deal With My Passive-Aggressive Friend?
• SteadyHealth.com: Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder