How to Avoid “Players” While Online Dating

Online dating is a great way to increase your circle of contacts and potential dates, but it is also riddled with "players" and men and women who are looking for something other than a long-term relationship. Have trouble telling the insincere players from the good catches? Here are some things to think about when reading an online dating ad.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Common sense
• Internet connection and dating sites of interest

Avoid “Players” While Online Dating

1. Online dating profiles use some keywords to get a dater's point across without blatantly saying what they really mean. Words like, "casual" may mean more than just "casual" and may really be cluing the reader into the fact that the profiled person may just be interested in hooking up. If they talk about partying a lot and going out constantly, you may be looking at a player.

2. If the online profile is too short and doesn't really discuss the person's interests and experiences, you may be dealing with a player. Players don't usually put a lot of effort into their profiles and rely solely on their photograph and their ability to "hunt their prey" by contacting others themselves. Move onto someone else.

3. Are the photos provocative? Whether you are looking for a man or a woman, if provocative photos are posted, you may be dealing with a player. Players usually focus on sexuality in their ads and will try to seduce viewers with flashy and sometime generally inappropriate photos. If you are looking for a real date, move on.

4. Got someone "winking" or instant messaging you? If they don't ask about your interests and don't really want to know more about you, you may be dealing with a player. Players will try to get you to meet up immediately instead of conversing via the Internet or phone first. Avoid these daters.

[femwriter]

on 8/3/2009 These tips are helpful especially for those new in online dating, thanks for writing this one!