The Right Way to Break up With Someone

Remain as calm as possible to keep the breakup civil.

Ending a relationship, known as "breaking up," is never an easy task. Breaking up is stressful for the one initiating it and can shock the one being let go. Even if both parties have the desire to go their separate ways, expect some awkwardness and hurt feelings. You can attempt to minimize any painfulness by practicing basic courtesy.

Instructions

1. Meet the person face to face. don't break up via email, text or phone as it hinders closure. The only exception to this rule is if you believe the person may become violent or abusive.

2. Choose your setting carefully. Avoid public places and crowds. If things get emotional, people will be able to witness any "scenes." It's also courteous to stay away from your ex's favorite places or overly romantic settings.

3. State clearly and concisely why you want to end the relationship. Make it clear that you've put a lot of thought into the decision. Avoid placing blame on the other person, even if you feel it was their fault. Use statements like "I feel unappreciated" instead of "You didn't appreciate me."

4. Be as honest as possible. Answer any questions truthfully. Don't give the other person any false expectations of getting back together, unless you intend to follow through. Don't imply that you'll be friends right away or feel that you have to force a friendship.

5. Respect the other person's desire to end the conversation. Forcing a drawn-out breakup can get overly emotional and hurtful. If you need more closure, give each other some time and space to cool down before meeting again.

References

• "Men's Health"; The Best Way to Break Up with Her; April Daley; April 2011