How to chalk it up when he stops calling

chalk it up when he stops calling

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So you meet this great guy. He calls you almost everyday, at work, home, text messages you. It's a great 2 months and 7 dates and than, you make a plan for next Saturday, and you haven't heard from him, in 6 days. What do you do?

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

A carefree attitude
self esteem
self control

Step1

DON'T jump to conclusions at first. I had a friend once who was so upset that she hadn't heard from this guy she was seeing for 5 days. When she left him a few irate messages, he called her and explained there was a death in his family. She apologized in hopes he would want to continue their relationship, but sadly, he just was not interested anymore.

Step2

Find other things to do with your time. Try not to obsess. I know it's difficult because you really like him. But why waste time thinking about someone who's just not that into you. If he were, he would call. Unless something happened like he has a problem with the family, or he is sick ,or in the hospital. But, men do pull the disappearing act from time to time. Do you want to be with someone like this? Think about it.
Men are unpredictable, so maybe he will call, maybe he won't. You don't want to spend your energy on thinking too much about it. Let go, when you let go, things happen.

Step3

Call once or send an e-mail. If you get a response great, if not. Don't keep calling. Remember, he knows where you are, he has your number. Chances are he met someone else. These things happen even though you can't fathom why someone would just disappear from your life after having so many good dates.

Step4

If he calls you after 2 weeks or 3 and wants to take you out, my advice, don't do it. If he didn't have a good reason for not phoning for weeks, he will do it again. It's the way he is, immature and is lacking dating etiquette. Chalk it up and move on, nothing gained, nothing lost.

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56Mercgal said

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on 3/21/2008 I have a guy who says since we met he thinks of me all the time. We used to spend hours talking on the phone about twice a week since Sept of last year. Then in Jan, he had a family issue with his aunt and had to deal with alot as well as putting her in a nursing home, it was very hard on him, his last living relative he had grown up with. He gets distracted easily with projects and playing alot of gigs on weekends. Works til 7 and is usually exhausted by nightime. I asked him at the beginning of our friendship how he is at returning phone calls and he admitted he's pretty bad! He sometimes forgets to check his e-mails/calls from othr friends/business people. Sure his ticked off alot of them unintentially. There were times he'd say he'd call but forgot, but would apologize a few days later. Writes he really misses me. We have alot in common and really care alot about each other, at least