How to Screw Up A Relationship

Have you ever wondered why so many couples start out their relationship deeply in love and over time lose that loving feeling? Read on to discover the top 10 things couples do to screw up their marriage.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

1. Attack Each Other: Many people don’t know how to resolve their differences. They often resort to character assassination and yelling when they disagree.
2. Withdraw: On the other hand, some people withdraw from conflict and quit talking. Then the ice storm sets in and communication shuts down
3. Fight about money: Couples frequently disagree about how to spend their money. Many times people have different interests and priorities. If they are not able to resolve this, it can become a source of strife.
4. Have an affair: An affair, whether emotional or physical, can be one of the most devastating events for a marriage. Recovering from an affair is a process that takes a lot of forgiveness, work, commitment, and time.
5. Quit dating their mate: Early in a relationship, most couples want to spend every waking moment together. They make time to romance each other. The flame burns hot.
6. Anger and Resentment: Have you ever been hurt by something your spouse said or did? Of course you have! However, if you don’t forgive your mate, then the hurt can turn into anger and resentment. This creates a wall of division.
7. Ignore the relationship: Many relationships end because couples stop investing themselves in the relationship. Over time, they stop having anything in common and drift apart.
8. Start taking each other for granted: People stop treating each other special and eventually their marriage loses that special quality.
9. Couples don’t “leave and cleave”: A number of couples never break the ties to their families. Therefore, they never learn rely on each other. This becomes evident during difficult times when they tend to run back home instead of to their mate.
10. Manipulation and control: Some people try to manipulate their partner with ultimatums, guilt, and tantrums to get their way. This might be effective short-term, but it erodes the foundation of the relationship and leads to resentment.

Tips & Warnings

• Don’t let the love slip away A loving relationship is one of the most precious gifts in life. These are 10 things that you can avoid to help protect that bond. “We had a love…you don’t find every day, so don’t let it slip away.”