How to Survive Your Partner’s Negativity

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Our spouses’ all have bad days. Maybe something went wrong at work or someone mad them mad. Days like these are easy to handle with a little bit of space and some TLC. However, how do you deal when the bad days chain into weeks, months and years. Surviving a constant barrage of your partner’s negativity is unhealthy but survivable.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Step1

Love them. While their feelings are projecting hopelessness onto you, they are suffering even more. Continue to love them and project positivity into the relationship. While their actions, words and overall character may scream the opposite, what they need is love.

Step2

Don’t resent them. While it is easy to meet their negativity with resentment, that is the worst thing to do. Your resentment for them will only add to their bad feelings. Try to focus on the good things about them, your relationship and your life together. Positivity is a greater force than negativity. In time, it is possible that your good feelings will change their bad ones.

Step3

Give them space, for yourself. If your partner comments about needing space, give it to them. More than likely they’re experiencing issues with themselves and haven’t figured out how to deal with themselves. Giving them space is good also for you. You need to come up for air and leave the negativity from time to time.

Step4

Re-energize yourself. You’ll do your relationship no good if you’re too low in energy. You’ll need to have your strength to be the strong end of your union while your partner finds their way. Do things that you want to do, go places that you want to go and visit people that energize you. The better you are, the better your side of the relationship.

Step5

Be ready for positive change. It can be overwhelming when your partner changes their negativity. Be ready so you can appreciate the changes and, most importantly, believe them and join in. It’s very easy after dealing with a negative partner to doubt everything about them and to become cynical. Guard these emotions so that you can enjoy and further the good changes ahead.