Step1
Decide this IS what you want to do. This is the most important step. I first thought about it probably a year before I actually did it. It's not easy to do believe me. All the benefits of a relationship are tough to just give up. Knowing you have someone is a great thing in life. Plus all the etra-curriculars (kissing, dates, holding hands, sex etc...) make this an even harder thing to decide. However, maybe she'll do something that you'll never be able to forgive her for. Maybe you'll find someone you like even more. Maybe you'll wake up someday and not be attracted to her anymore. Maybe you move apart...whatever it is, you must be ABSOLUTELY SURE you want to breakup with her. For me the hardest part was being able to live without sex. Once I realized I didn't need to have sex everyday, I realized I really didn't need a gf I didn't even like. For others it may be different but you get the idea.
Step2
Mentally Prepare. Once you decide "you know what, I think I want to break it off with my girl" then you gotta just get that thought in your head and not let it leave. It is so EASY so wimp out and be in a relationship you don't even want to be in just because you don't or can't break it off. So you need to get it thru your thick skull: "hey man, I know she's a good girl but nothing in life lasts forever, not even life..." it's a tough pill to swallow especially for your first girlfriend. Trust me, I never EVER thought I would ever break up with my girlfriend but you know, things change, people change, its a fact of life. How many people do you know have been devastated because they broke up with their girlfriend/boyfriend? Its tough for some people, but hey its life, you gotta be able to cope with it. So, once you've decided you want to dump her and have mentally gotten yourself in the "I'm single now" mindset, theres nothing left to do but tell her how you feel...
Step3
Tell her. This is the worst part, especially if it's gonna be a surprise. If she cheated on you or did some crappy things then this part can be very gratifying. My girlfriend treated me like sh*t 1 too many times so it was time to just end it. I felt terrible because I really liked her (she was hot) and we were very good together (we had sex a lot) but like I said, things change and nothing lasts forever. It's best to do this step in person. Online or on the phone is pretty pathetic and you are a lousy person if thats how you handle it, or you're like 13 years old. A good line is "I don't know I feel differenty about you", "I want to be just friends now" or "I'm sick of fighting, I want to break up with you" is cool to. Just don't be mushy, don't let her talk you out of it, don't leave it open to interpretation. Make it a done deal.
Step4
Get over it. Easier said than done. I still think about my ex every 30 seconds! You just get very accustomed to thinking and caring about someone, its tough to break the spell they have on you. The best things to do I've found are to work out, get a job, chill with your friends, go out and party, meet new girls, talk to girls you've aways liked but couldn't really go there because you had a GF you know stuff you did before you had a gf. Basically, you need to be positive about it, realize there are way cooler girls out there and she was just a stepping stone/learning experince to better, hotter girls!
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g2i2n2a2 said
on 7/12/2008 i think this guy IS a genius