How to forgive and forget

You are trying something impossible...! i dont think so. its just a bit challenging for both your mind and body.
The more you try to forgive, the more it become difficult to do so...

Some one humiliated you or insulted you, or abused you or ditched you or simply used you and then dumped you... Now you feel to give a befitting response to that person...

Why...?

Because you think that it was not RIGHT on his / her part to do such a thing with you..

So you want to punish the person concerned...

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Determination
• patience
• positive thinking
• willing to do so
• will power

1. Try to ask a few question to your deep self. Why at the first place, are you so keen in forgiving that person...? Better get mad at your fullest capacity and then just relax. Do it as many times as long you have this craving to forgive him / her.

2. Is that person still very important in your present day life? By forgiving what are you going to achieve...? you have the answer peace of mind and giving less importance to that person which itself is the biggest punishment.

3. Just drop the idea of forgiving, If the person is no more significant in your present life, then cultivate 'Indifference ' patiently. just think that this person is not even thinking of and forgiving, instead forget him / her. just block them out of your thoughts, which includes even forgetting the goodness once they might have done to you.

4. See, introspect and meditate how you can surpass him / her and achieve bigger heights inwardly.( and not worldly or outwardly )
   And to become rich inwardly, what it really means, is : to became a real creative person. engage your self in creative pursuits and you will start GROWING into a positive human being

5. To grow into a positive human being is the biggest punishment and the most appropriate response to his / her NEGATIVITY.( done to you ).

6. Have full faith in your inward beautiful self... Out of this only a POSITIVE person can grow, by remembering positivity has no fears, no regrets and no weakness.

Tips & Warnings

• this article is written in regard to those readers who are trying hard to forgive and forget others not for those who are looking to take revenge.

[thinks2deep]

on 1/3/2009 This seems very passive agressive and borders on "wall building" which is not true forgiveness. Would not recommend this as it continues to give to offender power over the offended.

[lacurcio]

on 7/9/2008 Great Advice! Thanks.

[DiscountTickets]

on 7/3/2008 Yea, I do this all the time, and the more you do it, the easier it gets.

[0-debbie-0]

on 7/1/2008 This is really helpful. Thanks so much Tamanna!

[arielCo]

on 2/1/2008 This is more about forgetting the person who offended you than about forgetting the offense in order to heal the relationship.