How to Survive Your Teenager Dating a Thug

It’s one of a parent’s greatest nightmares, the moment when their beloved child brings home a less than savory date. While no one ever seems good enough for your child, there are some choices that not only break your heart but worry your nerves.

When she brings a thug through your front door, what can you do?

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

1. Relax. It may feel like you need to lose your mind over this but that’s the worst thing you can do. Losing your cool will cloud your words and your thinking. Being incensed with anger will put things in your mind that are unnecessary and you’ll see things that are not there.

2. Assess the situation. Step back and take a look at how bad things are. Is your child’s boyfriend or girlfriend as horrific as you think or is there a bit of judgment on your part? See how things really are rather than how you think they are. Feel free to even consult someone whose opinion you trust for an objective view on the dating.

3. Step in if there’s danger. If you fear for your child dating this person and there are clear signs of danger, step in. If you fear the possibility of abusiveness, consult the nearest domestic violence shelter for their assistance. If you fear your child is being led down a dangerous path (e.g. breaking the law), consult the authorities for their advice.

4. Let them learn. Children remain children until they mature. Maturing is achieved through learning and there’s no greater teacher than experience. If they’re going to learn about the endless types of bad date choices, they’re going to have to actually date them, thugs included. As much as it may pain you, let them kiss a few frogs.

[blueskittlez]

on 11/3/2008 thugs are the sweeeetest guys you could ever date!!!!!!