Difficulty: Moderately Challenging
Things You’ll Need:
- Patience
- Open Mind
- Desire to accept oneself
- Ability to love/share with others
Step1
Within the guidelines of love, relationships and being truly happy why are so many people miserable? I think I may have some ideas.
Step2
Many times I think this is because we have our idea of what we want in a mate only to find it and often it is otherwise not a good match overall.
Step3
I have talked with many women who strive to not settle for less believing that what they want is attainable and maybe for some it is. For many others they often think they have found it only to wind up single, lonely and still searching for the same goals.
Step4
If the type of person you have had is no longer with you then why would you strive to continue to find that same type of person in the first place? If that truly is what would make you happy and fulfilled would you still be searching now? I know it is hard but, there comes a time where you have to accept the truth.
Step5
What you wanted is not necessarily what will truly make you happy. For some it may never make them truly happy until they learn to totally accept themselves and the beliefs they teach others to believe in.
Step6
For example, if you teach others to be happy with what they have and the way god made them, why would you change yourself in other ways in order to make yourself different? Many women will often find a match, tell him to be truly grateful for what he has while struggling to change many things they do not like or are unsatisfied with in themselves.
Step7
Be careful what you wish for you just might get it and not in the way you want it. Buyer beware, you might get the provider you always desired, but the trade off will be that he will not be the communicator you so desperately need in your life. If this is true are you still settling or is this the man of your dreams because he is the provider you always wanted?
Step8
Men can only figure out what you want if you show them since most are very visually stimulated to action in many ways. If you want more of a communicative person, you might have to give up the great provider or the man with the perfect coiffed hairstyle and full set of teeth.
Step9
Are you prepared to make that decision and if so, do you still feel like your settling if your truly happy with the guy you never though would make you happy ?
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bizewriter said
on 2/12/2008 The first sentence in step four is so true.
MidniteWriter said
on 2/5/2008 This is good and what you want may change over time.
MidniteWriter said
on 2/5/2008 This is good and what you want may change over time.
Blackbear said
on 2/1/2008 Very good article! I also agree with Grouch too! This article should be very helpful to everyone!
grouch said
on 1/26/2008 One way to be sure is to wait a while between relationships. Going in with a clear head and an open mind always helps. If you find something too soon, Try being friends. Some of the greatest relationships are based on the friendships that began before anything progressed.