Things You'll Need:
- Internet Access
- Condominiums
- Patience
- Time
- Money
- Bravery & Trust
- Ounce of Prevention
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Step 1
Search the Internet for sites that provide introduction services for couples and those looking for couples. You can use clean sites aimed at helping one increase one's base of friends for cooking out or movie or game nights or you can use swinger sites and other adult friend finder sites if you're hoping for bedroom adventures. (Keep in mind that many sites charge a fee.)
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Step 2
After you've decided upon a site or two, join and create a profile on each site. Take your time to create a detailed informative profile. Don't fill them in with things like "will answer later," as most won't look at your profile later.
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Step 3
Next prepare your introductory letter that you will send to each interesting profile in your area or any area to which you frequently visit or are willing to travel. You may edit this letter for individual couples who have particular information in their profiles on which you wish to comment.
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Step 4
Take the initial step and write your introductory letter to all the couples whom you find at least mildly interesting. There's strength in numbers; there's not much chance of actually meeting a couple, much less swinging with one, unless you write to a lot of them. Continue this step often being sure to write whenever new couples join.
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Step 5
Wait for the couples you've written to respond back to you. Give them a week or two as they might be busy and because couples sometimes get lots of responses, especially from single men. If after three weeks they haven't written and the site indicates that they've visited the site and if you find their profile particularly interesting, then try writing them once more.
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Step 6
Once a couple writes to you, be sure to give them a prompt informative reply. Get the dialog going.
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Step 7
Once you have a correspondence going and you feel comfortable with this or these couple(s), then give them your real email address or other contact information and hope they'll do the same.
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Step 8
With the couple's help begin planning your first meeting. If they're comfortable with you they might invite you to their home for a movie or more, but don't be pushy; be happy to meet them at a public place such as the theatre (a play or a movie), if you're uncomfortable talking much at first, or meet at a mall and walk around and talk to them if you all are comfortable talking the first meeting. (Keep in mind that you can get to know them a lot more at the mall than you can quietly sitting in a theatre somewhere.
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Step 9
Have fun and be safe.
