How to Give a Valentine to Someone You Just Started Dating

While there's no question that the two of you definitely dig each other, there's also no question that the two of you barely know each other. You just started dating, so it's only natural that you might be feeling a little perplexed about how to approach February 14. Valentine's Day can be tricky for those in that undefined, getting-to-know-you, casual dating period. You don't want to ignore the day, altogether, for fear of appearing apathetic, but you also don't want to overwhelm your crush with too much romance too soon. What you need is a little token that says, "I think you're awesome and am totally thrilled to have met you--and I look forward to getting to know you better and seeing where our great connection leads--easily and organically and without any pressure--and only if you feel the same, of course." Here are some things to consider when looking for the perfect gift for that newly-anointed "Somebody Special" in your life.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

1. Personalize your pick. Pay attention. Observe the way she dresses. Listen to the way he talks. Make mental notes about what excites your sweetie. Is it books? sports? fashion? travel? Use these observations to help you decide the perfect gift. Remember, just because your gift isn't going to be over the top, doesn't mean it shouldn't be special. I once received a pair of red gloves from a guy I had known only two weeks. It was a romantic, thoughtful gift that proved he had noticed me: My hands are always cold, I wear gloves often and I love the color red. That gift endeared him to me for good.
2. Infuse your personality. Not only is gift-giving a great way to show that you've been paying attention to the other person, it’s also an opportunity to share something about yourself. I love to give handmade cards adorned with some of the antique buttons I collect. One friend of mine often decorates her gifts with greenery from her exquisite garden, while another friend prefers to make his gifts experiences instead of material goods. Infusing your personality on the gift not only makes the exchange more meaningful, it lets your sweetie get to know you better as well.
3. Start a dialogue. Since each of you are still figuring out what makes the other person tick, why not give a gift that will encourage even more discovery? If he likes to read, buy two copies of the same book. You can read it together and talk about it as you go. It’s like your own book club for two. If she’s into music, make her a compilation of songs by your favorite obscure bands. Ask her to listen to it five times through on her own and then you can listen to it together and she can tell you which ones she likes best and why. Other ideas? Maybe a membership to an art museum in your city, a pair of tickets to a local film festival, dance lessons or a cooking class.
4. Give an old fashioned compliment. Let cupid be your muse for articulating what you really adore about your new crush. You don’t need to gush if gushing isn’t your style, but do use this opportunity to make yourself a little vulnerable and say something you haven’t yet. Compliment sense of humor, work ethic, beauty, intelligence, creativity--whatever it is that charms you is fair game for compliments. Giving a sincere compliment is a sure way to bring you closer together.
5. Put a new spin on cliché. Instead of red roses, chocolates and dinner at a fancy restaurant, try white lilies, blood oranges and take-out from your favorite Chinese hole in the wall. The traditional way of celebrating Valentine’s Day is filled with innuendo and may be too much pressure for new love.