How to Recover from Losing a Soulmate

Losing a spouse or significant other is deemed one of the most influential tragedies affecting our well-being. Recovery from losing soulmates may depend partly on why they are no longer with us, but in many ways the loss is similar for all those affected. The main difference may be how much or how little control we had in the matter. The difference between divorce and death bears different emotional and practical consequences. Yet regardless of the reason, recovery is a relative term and some actions help restore happiness and balance better than others.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• Time
• Outside support

How to Recover from the Loss of a Soulmate

1. Allow yourself time to mourn and ignore the advice of people who claim that there is only one good way to do so. Well-intentioned loved ones may encourage you to date before you are ready. Many psychologists believe a person needs at least one to three years following a divorce to be emotionally ready.
2. Seek spiritual or professional help if serious grieving is long-term and poses a threat to your well-being. Extended or severe depression, problems with work or family and long-term isolation are reliable indicators that you may need help to recover from losing a soulmate.
3. Find a support group, if needed, to deal with feelings of guilt, shame and loss. Maybe you feel you had more control over a situation than you really had or are completely at a loss at how to take care of yourself or family. Empathetic understanding and peer advice can help.
4. Avoid long-term medications to relieve depression and anxiety unless your physician feels the alternative is worse. Recovery from losing a soulmate sadly includes difficult feelings and working through much pain. No matter how long the feelings are postponed, they will eventually face you, protracted or head-on, and not dealt with, these emotions may cause more problems later.
5. Listen to your heart and mind for the right time to move on but don't expect to feel great when you begin to do so. A bit of motivation for change is enough to get started. Engage in activities that made you happy with your soulmate and know some adjustment is likely before the enjoyment returns, but it will if you allow it.

Tips & Warnings

• If your confidence is low following a breakup, try building yourself back up with affirmations, taking note of your accomplishments and surrounding yourself with positive people.
• For serious self-esteem issues, consult a professional for advice.