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Step 1
Step 1: Stop
All of the drama and mixed emotions can make it difficult to think clearly. This is why you simply need to stop everything for at least one day. Hide in your room, call into work, whatever. Spend one day collecting your thoughts and allow yourself time to recover from the initial shock. This is not an excuse to be depressed! This time is intended to be used for relaxation and reflection. Use it to prepare yourself for the coming days when you will have to face the world and your ex. -
Step 2
Step 2: No Ex…for now
Most people think the best way to get your ex back is to keep calling them and saying you miss them, love them, etc. The fact is that chasing your ex right after a break up is only more likely to turn them away. Furthermore, your emotions are too unstable during this time, which will make it hard to present yourself in calm and confident manner. So don’t give into the temptation to contact your ex. Give each other some space and move onto the third step. -
Step 3
Step 3: Plan Your Strategy
This the most important step in getting your ex back. Too many people are over-confident in their abilities to win back a lover. They randomly call their ex, send flowers, and even show up at their doorstep. The problem with this strategy is that when it comes time to talk they have nothing to say except “I’m Sorry” or “I Love You”. These words may be true, but it will not be enough to get their ex back. You need to build a strong attraction from them and prove that things will be different in the future. This is not something that can be done overnight as it requires creativity and thoughtful planning.










Comments
sadandalonenow said
on 1/22/2008 i feel like every day we spend apart is just another wasted day spent alone and unhappy.. help
sadandalonenow said
on 1/22/2008 so my ex and i have been broken up for 2 months now, and we have each been dating new people for the last 2 to 3 weeks. we still talk on the phone at night and we have hung out recently. we layed together on her couch and just cuddled. i miss her. we were talking and we are still very in love with each other. but she doesn't want to leave her new boyfriend because she is unsure of where things could go with him. she is open about him not making her as happy as i did and still do.
oh, and did i mention that her new boyfrind is her ex before me that treated her like **** and made her cry all of the time?
i'm not sure what to do. all i know is that we are completely happy when we are together, but i don't know how to let her see that she is just wasting her time and setting herself up to get hurt.. again.
help me please