How to Leave a Soulmate

Sadly, the one we love most in life may not be the right one for us. Reasons to leave a soulmate are not limited to infidelity, drug or gambling addiction, abuse, alcoholism, and failure to keep a steady job. What differentiates a soulmate from every spouse or significant other is largely a matter of perspective. But for general purpose here, a soulmate is one who you both love and are deeply in love with. Regardless of this love, some relationships are futile and/or dangerous. Read on for some tips to help the painful process of leaving a soulmate.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• Assessment
• Reflection
• Honesty
• Strength
• Willpower

Prepare Mentally to Leave Your Soulmate

1. Make a list of the good and bad in the relationship and notice how unbalanced it is. Note how you felt when you were happy together, how you feel now and what it would take to make the relationship acceptable. Decide if the changes are likely to occur.
2. Acknowledge that while you still love the soulmate, you may also be in love with how things were not how they are now.
3. Envision life's course if you don't leave your soulmate. What will it be like in one year or five years from now? Will things only get worse yet remain as difficult to separate?
4. Recognize that you may have found your soul rather than your soulmate, or both. Some of the things that made you happy will be carried with you and will continue on without your partner.

How to Leave a Soulmate

5. Decide on a firm and swift departure. If you wish to leave a soulmate that is abusive or otherwise causing you harm, it's best to not open up the table for more lies, pleas and apologies. They may also attempt to make your life miserable pending your move as they are hurting too.
6. Consider a move that puts some distance between you and the soulmate who is making you miserable. This will make it more difficult to reconcile at a weak moment and preempt accidental encounters that would otherwise occur.
7. Pack your love mementos and put them out of sight unless you rather just dispose of them entirely.
8. Start planning on new ways to fill your time and do things you have wanted to do but were unable to in your relationship.
9. Come to terms with your feelings and know despite the bad times, as insane as it may seem, your love may never disappear. This is one of the most difficult parts of leaving a soulmate. Time may not completely heal this wound but it can delegate a place for these memories that will take backseat to a better life.

Tips & Warnings

• If you are in an abusive situation, get help with your departure and do not spend any additional time alone with your loved one in the process.