Things You'll Need:
- Strength
- Willpower
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Step 1
Make a list of the good and bad in the relationship and notice how unbalanced it is. Note how you felt when you were happy together, how you feel now and what it would take to make the relationship acceptable. Decide if the changes are likely to occur.
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Step 2
Acknowledge that while you still love the soulmate, you may also be in love with how things were not how they are now.
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Step 3
Envision life's course if you don't leave your soulmate. What will it be like in one year or five years from now? Will things only get worse yet remain as difficult to separate?
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Step 4
Recognize that you may have found your soul rather than your soulmate, or both. Some of the things that made you happy will be carried with you and will continue on without your partner.
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Step 1
Decide on a firm and swift departure. If you wish to leave a soulmate that is abusive or otherwise causing you harm, it's best to not open up the table for more lies, pleas and apologies. They may also attempt to make your life miserable pending your move as they are hurting too.
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Step 2
Consider a move that puts some distance between you and the soulmate who is making you miserable. This will make it more difficult to reconcile at a weak moment and preempt accidental encounters that would otherwise occur.
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Step 3
Pack your love mementos and put them out of sight unless you rather just dispose of them entirely.
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Step 4
Start planning on new ways to fill your time and do things you have wanted to do but were unable to in your relationship.
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Step 5
Come to terms with your feelings and know despite the bad times, as insane as it may seem, your love may never disappear. This is one of the most difficult parts of leaving a soulmate. Time may not completely heal this wound but it can delegate a place for these memories that will take backseat to a better life.
Comments
adzmonkey said
on 9/5/2009 I did this and realized that it was me that failed to change. I was such a moron.
sunnyglitter said
on 7/17/2009 I wish my love WOULD disappear. There are days I still miss my soulmate. 5*
fortheloveoflif said
on 5/16/2009 I looked over your article and it did help in my past relationship. But now I have one question to ask, I have this girl that I love desperately, and I know she thinks the world of me cause she calls me almost everyday.I've looked up all those things that make soulmates, and she fits everything, she even worries, about what's going to happen in like an hour from now, and I'm having the hardest time trying to say to myself that I don't need her cause I'm moving soon, and I want to bring her with but she has this guy that she absolutely adores, but I still feel like my heart is torn two ways, like I want to stay with her, cause she makes me see the real me, but I don't know if I can keep playing this game.hoping you can help.
bizewriter said
on 5/1/2008 HardLesson: I think it depends on the Ex and the situation but also I believe people can both move on and yet still "think" of the person, whether good, bad or indifferent. That seems pretty natural if the person played a significant role in our lives. Then there are people who are good at compartmentalization or denial and can nearly forget the relationship altogether.Albeit it can come back to haunt them if they haven't had closure. As long as the thoughts don't affect one's general well being or become obsessive -- I believe there is no one right way to move on. Good question. :-)
HardLesson said
on 5/1/2008 Do you think our ex's ever think about us as much as we think about them? Or do
you think they've moved on to the point that we don't cross there mind?