Step1
Plan a fun date. Pick a weekend night, and designate that night to be just for you. Decide what you want to do. You don’t necessarily have to hire a sitter, although that would be best. You just have to want to spend the time with one another, whether you are watching a movie, having a romantic dinner, or sharing a bottle of wine and playing a board game. Any kind of dating experience is just fine, as long as you both are having fun. Fun is vitally important for you both, to regain that childlike romantic feeling. Play a game, and laugh together. Some good bets are Twister, Scrabble, or Charades. Rent a funny movie, and romantic comedies are the best. Relax and enjoy each other. If you can get a sitter, go out to dinner and talk. Then take a walk together in the moonlight, or go for ice cream. Maybe even go dancing somewhere. Try to avoid seeing a movie when you're out, because it will discourage interaction, and you want to keep your opportunity for communication open. A more informal movie-viewing time at home is a different story, as you can snuggle and talk while you watch. You might find that while you’re out, you start to talk about the kids. Maybe some unresolved issues come up that can lead to an argument. Try and leave all that rubbish at home. Just focus on you and your partner, and treat the whole experience like a date. Be light, and have fun. Pretend that you’re just meeting, and try and feel that pleasure again. Or just relax and enjoy one another, for who you are right now. The point is, leave the stress and feelings of responsibility behind.
Step2
Kiss hello and goodbye. Have a good hug when you haven’t seen each other all day. These small gestures aren’t really so small. Without them, your relationship can start to seem like a friendship. You might even start to wonder if you are roommates, after all. Kissing and other signs of affection are the difference between a small “Hello” and a fantastic, “It’s great to see you, and I missed you.” Let your love know that you care, and that you are dazzled by her with a big, passionate smooch on the lips.
Step3
Show interest in what the other person is doing. Not so long ago, you were interested in almost everything your love was up to. You went with him everywhere, learned about his hobbies and loves, and accompanied him to his favorite events. Now, since you’re both caught up in the daily routine, you no longer take the time to find out what he’s up to, what he is thinking, or what he would like to do. Ask him about his work. Find out what he wishes he could do in his spare time, or what his favorite way to unwind might be. Let him know that you are there if he needs to talk, and make sure he understands that you need that from him, as well. If each one of you feels that the other is supportive and caring, then your relationship will be solid and loving. And who doesn't want that?
Step4
Give one another space. If it seems like your love needs to have some time, by all means, give it to her. Take the kids for a few hours, and give her that time. Let her take a long bath, or go for a walk alone. Maybe she just needs to sit and read for an hour or so. Respecting the need for privacy and peace is all a part of being in a healthy relationship. Your love will emerge from her temporary hiatus refreshed and happy, ready to spend time with you and your family.
Step5
Laugh together. Tell jokes or tickle each other. Be goofy and make funny faces. Wink at each other. Dance together in the kitchen, doing dips and twirls. Laughter is the best medicine, to use an old adage. Laughing together smoothes out the rough edges, and helps you get over those hurdles we all face in life. If you are arguing over something relatively insignificant, try to turn it around by laughing. But don’t laugh if the other person is really angry. They may not think it’s too funny!
Novice 
