How to Answer the Dreaded Question: "Do You Think I'm Fat?"

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Answer the Dreaded Question: "Do You Think I'm Fat?"

Everyone has had a loved one ask them at least once "Do you think I'm Fat?" As a women who has tortured my ex-husband and various boyfriends with that very question I've learned from their creative answers. No matter how confident a person is there usually comes a time when they are insecure about something. If your loved one asks the dreaded question self-esteem is most likely the issue. Whether the answer is yes or no to the question, below are some positive ways to answer it.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Positive and Supportive Attitude

Step 1

It's first thing in the morning and you've not even had your first cup of coffee yet. You're barely awake when your loved one launches a sneak attack with the dreaded question: "Do you think I'm fat?" or "Does this make me look fat?" Caught off guard you stutter and hesitate, stalling, searching the recesses of your foggy brain for the appropriate answer. This is your first mistake. Don't hesitate! It causes doubt in an already insecure mind!
Step 2

Unless you have no brain at all it's obvious that you shouldn't answer "Yes" to this question even if the person does have a weight issue. Not only does this hurt a person's feelings it sends their already delicate self-esteem spiraling downwards. Answering yes will not solve the problem. It may either perpetuate the problem or cause the person to try to loose weight in an unhealthy manner. If your loved one truly does have an issue don't answer no either. The true issue is health here, both physical and mental. Denying that there is an issue may have a devastating impact.
Step 3

So how do you answer the question??? One example of a positive response is:
"You know I love (or care) about you. I think you look fabulous but if you feel uncomfortable or unhealthy then it's ok to make some changes. Whatever you choose I'm here to support you 100%. Can I ask you why you feel this way and what do you think needs to change?"

In that response you've:
1)Let the person know you care about them.
2)Given their self-esteem the boost it needed.
3)Let them know if there is an issue that it's possible to correct it and that they have your support.
4)Answered their question with another question. This causes them to search for an answer themselves, rather than wallow in self-pity.
Step 4

Last, if your loved one needs it, help them develop a plan to get healthy. Offer support in a positive manner throughout the process. When you see positive changes being made, offer up compliments. Praise is the water that makes the seeds of progress grow!