How to Become Emotionally Mature

Does every little thing set you off? When people are rude to you, do you dwell on it and think of ways to get back at them? Do your family and friends have to walk on eggshells around you, for fear of offending you? Don't take life so seriously. Take it easy. Learn to smile and give people a break. Become emotionally mature.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Avoid getting easily offended. Immature, selfish people allow the behavior of others to make theme feel bad. They constantly dwell on who hurt and mistreated them but they never concern themselves with the people they have offended. Stop carrying anger or resentment in your heart against a person who more than likely didn't realize their actions or conduct caused you pain.

2. Stop giving your joy away. Everyday we are faced with circumstances beyond our control with the potential to rob us of our happiness. Are you going to give your joy away because someone cut you off in traffic? Are you going to give your joy away because the cashier at the grocery store was rude to you? If you keep doing that, at the end of the day you will have no joy left and the people you love the most will suffer because of it. Quit allowing strangers, people you will never see again, take your peace away. Make up your mind you are not going to get aggravated because another person is having a bad day or has bad manners. Be determined to stay in peace.

3. Use reason to govern your actions, instead of emotion. Do not allow your feelings or emotions to control you. If you continue letting your emotions rule you, you will never be free as there will always be something or someone to keep you on edge.

4. Do not bite the bait. The enemy loves to push our buttons and he uses people to trap us into mediocrity, but reacting the same way is just another trip around the same mountain. Cultivate a new way to react and watch how the people who love to aggravate you lose their power over you.

Tips & Warnings

• If people are rude to you, be the bigger person and respond to their anger with dignity and kindness. Refuse their poison and give it right back to them.

[AsifRupani]

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