How to Make Sure You Don’t Fall In Love Too Fast

As the trials and tribulations of Jessica Simpson’s life proves, falling for someone too fast can only mark doom for the relationship. Falling to fast can ruin what could have been a great relationship because, most of the time, the other person gets scared off. Here’s how you can avoid having your "new date butterflies" turn into a full-blown case of the "I love yous" too soon.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Time
• Patience

1. Only fools rush in. Yes, the person you are spending time with seems so cute, cool and fabulous--right now. But realize that you are just getting to know the person. And, naturally, he is only showing you his finest qualities. Don’t let your feelings cloud your ability to objectively see who the person really is.

2. Keep your options open! If you have just begun dating someone, don’t shut down shop on the rest of your social life just because the first date or two has gone well. Continue dating people, or at least keeping your radar tuned for potentials, until you and your sweetest have a talk about being exclusive. The easiest way to lose all control in relationship early on is by giving your date all of your attention, while she is still playing the field.

3. Be sure to be you. It’s absolutely exhilarating to meet someone who does things differently than you, is carefree and somewhat of a risk-taker. But make sure that you don’t lose yourself in all the excitement. If you find yourself doing things that you don’t feel comfortable with because you don’t want to seem uncool to your date, then take a step back and evaluate things. Part of being in a relationship involves being open to new things, but not at the expense of your values or happiness.

4. Don’t act on impulse. Sure, it’s sweet to send your amour a cute text message or give him a quick call to say hello. But refrain from doing so constantly. Keep busy with the hobbies and friends you had before you met Mr. Perfect and it will be easier to stop those fingers from dialing and texting.

5. Avoid talking about the future. Even if you’d like that special gal to accompany you on the trip you’ve got planned for spring, avoid bringing it up early in the game. Topics pertaining to marriage, kids, trips or anything that is more than two weeks in the future should be tabled for later on in the relationship. Talking about the future early on can scare off your potential boyfriend or girlfriend.

6. Hold the I Love Yous. Even if you are 100 percent sure that you are in love with your new guy or gal, keep the news to yourself for awhile. Consider how you would feel if the sentiment was not returned. If you think you would be less than thrilled, swallow your "I love You" until you feel that the response would be more satisfactory.

[danielgreen1]

on 4/13/2008 good word miss flowers.