How to Stop Harrassment

Harrassment can be blatant or very subtle. It becomes an issue when the harrassor is unable to control his/her actions without causing uncomfortability for the person being harrassed.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• A journal to document, dates, times and places.
• Contacts to Government Agencies or Law Enforcement.
• Composure. If the harrasor feels they are affecting you, they will continue taunting in the hopes that you will give in.

Expose the Harrassor

1. Alert everyone. Family, friends, local bureaus and agencies. Once the harrassor has been exposed, he/she usualy finds a more covert way of continuing their antics or they will cease immediately.

2. Document everything!
   Conversations, points of contact, behaviour, etc. Make sure there is a paper flow, so that the authorities can follow, in case the actions of the harrassor gets out of control.

3. Stand up to him/her, inform them that their behaviour is unacceptable to you. Depending on the nature of harrassment, ask hom/her to stop harrassing you and let them know the consequences of their actions.

4. Turn the tables. If all your efforts have been ignored, then start copying the actions of the harrassor. If they call and hang up on you a million times, get their number and call them back. Harrassing is about power, if you take away theirpower and give them a good dose of their own medicine, they often fizzle way.

Tips & Warnings

• Know your harrassor.
• Research, find out everything about him/her imagineable.
• Don't ever take an harrassor lightly.
• Follow-through on all your complaints!
• Do not try to negotiate with an harrassor it will only emcourage him/her.
• Tenacity and a sense of justice will assist you in prevailing over the lecherous being.

[chelbelle77]

on 9/7/2009 I'd have to say that some of this advice is actually not recommended when dealing with a stalker as stalking is extremely often a symptom of mental health problems. If you have a stalker or believe the person is genuinely stalking you then do not make any contact with them whatsoever, let the authorities handle it.

[adviceforme]

on 6/24/2009 I'm having some issues with a female co-worker..she doesn't like me at all, and is so good at manipulating others into believing anything she says...She has made life at work very uncomfortable for me...there is more to the story....but for now, I just feel comfortable posting this much...please help

[PIdoggie]

on 5/28/2008 The harrassor has been arrested 4 times and in jail twice...this has not discouraged her from continuing her abusive and annoying behavior. All of the incidences that resulted in the arrests occurred AFTER she was served with a restraining order. She is supposedly a professional woman with a good position at a pharmaceutical company in the suburbs of Philadelphia. If the person needs psychological help, nothing on the lists above will prevent the person from continuing...just sharing what we have been experiencing over the last 6 months.