How to Stop Others From Taking Advantage of You

So you're a good person and like to help others. You babysit, run errands, loan money and fix the car. You put your own wants and needs aside and make yourself available at the most inconvenient times. But, now it's starting to grate on you. You're beginning to feel used and resentful. How do you stop others from taking advantage of you?

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Consider the request. Decide if it is something you want to do and if you have the time to do it. If you are not sure, tell them you need time to think about it and will get back to them.
2. Say "no" immediately to things you do not want to do or do not have time for. There's no need to put it off if you already know the answer. Be kind but assertive with your words and body language.
3. Shake off the urge to offer reasons or justifications for your decision. You may offer a reason if you choose to but it is not necessary in most cases.
4. Confront those who take advantage of you. Let them know that you have felt as if they have been using you and you feel resentful for the lack of respect they have been showing you. Remain calm and clearly state your future expectations.
5. Expect resistance. The people around you have grown accustomed to taking advantage of you and want to continue. Stand firm and don't allow them to make you feel guilty for your decisions.
6. End relationships with those who do not have enough respect for you to recognize that your wants and needs are just as important as their own. If the person taking advantage of you is an employer or co-workers, it may be time to start looking for another job.

Tips & Warnings

• You don't have to be mean to stop people from taking advantage of you. Just be calm and firm.
• Some people are takers and probably won't stick around if you have nothing for them to take.
• Tact is required when dealing with employers and co-workers.