How to Keep Your Relationship Alive

In the beginning of any relationship everything is wonderful. The conversations are engaging, the activities are fun, and the intimacy is great. But if after so many years, the demands of work, and kids begin to take a toll on you that you start neglecting the relationship, take a look back at what is missing and try to put it back into your life.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• Spouse
• Love
• Understanding
• Communication

1. Help each other. We all wish that we could just get home from work and do nothing but the truth is that it just doesn't happen. This is why if you help each other then neither of you will be over tired and you will be able to enjoy yourselves at night.
2. Communicate with each other. Communication is the one thing that many couples begin to ignore and before you know it, nothing is being said and you end up on the road to divorce.
3. Make love with the lights on. Think of the beginning when everything was wonderful and nothing would hold you back. Were the lights off then? Probably not. After many years together, many couples don't realize that little by little they are burning their own fire of love.
4. The lights probably go off, you use the same routine, and make up a schedule to fit in their lives. None of these things will make you want to be intimate because it is being to strict. Be spontaneous. Make love when you're in the mood, be nice to each other, and be compassionate of each other.
5. Be truthful to one another. If you don't feel the love anymore after trying everything to keep your relationship going, then you must let your partner know how you feel. It will be hard, but it is better to let your partner decide if they want to stay in the relationship knowing that you don't love them anymore or if they want to leave so they could find someone who will.

Tips & Warnings

• Sometimes making this decision is very hard especially if kids are involved and many parents will stay together for their children even though inside they don't want to be a couple anymore.
• You have to decide whether this would be the right thing to do. There are many children who grow up having healthy relationships even though their parents stuck together for their sake, but others who didn't because their parents just didn't know how to get along after deciding they would stay for their children.
• Sometimes the best thing would be to separate as there are people that I know who have separated and made new relationships and now have a better relationship with their former spouses and their significant others than when they were together.
• Only you can decide what is right for you. And if staying for the sake of the children is making you literally sick, is it really worth it?
• Children are always the ones who will suffer so if they are old enough it is a good idea to include them in your decisions and ask for their opinions.