How to deal with a breakup

At one time or another we'll be faced with rejection from someone we may have a crush on or currently in a relationship with. You'll learn that it's not the person who you are attracted to but it's living an attractive life that counts.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• Self respect
• Desire for personal growth

1. Most people live their lives for their relationships instead of having a life of their own. When you have a great life, you will attract great things and great people will be drawn to you.
   
   Think about it: Did your ex do you a favor by checking out of the relationship? You could be on the verge of something so ridiculously great and not know it because you are so wrapped up in moaning over what you had.
2. It’s ok to grieve and no doubt you will experience a range of depressing emotions. While you are nursing your broken heart, do not be tempted to call your ex to try to make up. It’s insulting and you should not disrespect or belittle yourself by begging. If your ex realizes that he/she made a mistake by acting too quickly and wants to get back with you, then you need to take sometime to seriously think about whether having this person in your life will really benefit you.
   
   If you act out of desperation, then your ex will know that you are needy and desperate. It’s hard to respect neediness and desperation. It’s actually repulsive.
3. You have a life that you are responsible for and you need to be accountable for your part in this world by creating an amazing life that will benefit you and help others.
   
   Start by thinking about what you’ve always wanted to do. What would you do if you had a million dollars? Start with that. Anything that you want to do is possible if you pursue it with intense desire and persistence. Don’t whine that you have nothing if you’re not doing anything to create it.
   
   Within 1 year after my breakup, I wrote a book, moved into a beautiful home, appeared on television and in my local newspaper. I am currently working on another book. Your motto from here on out should be: This is my life and I wont settle by begging you to be apart of yours.
   
   It was easier for me to sit in self pity and blame someone else for how my life turned out. Most people take this path. Sitting in breakup world will do nothing for you but make you a miserable old nag.
   
   Get with it and do it now. Start creating a new life that will leave you happier, more confident and fabulously successful.

Tips & Warnings

• Build a life so amazing outside of your ex leaving your ex behind to really think about why he/she wanted to leave you.
• Determine to grow for your own personal reasons