How to Cuddle

There are times when you just need to be close with the one that you love. While many people are close with their loved ones all the time, many still remain distant or have times when they typically will remain aloof. If asking for something like a close cuddle is not a thing you are typically comfortable or familiar with, but you really need to get a little closer in a completely non-sexual manner, then learning to ask for the close cuddle may just be for you. However there is a good deal of prep that should go into this event; you can’t just ask for a cuddle out from nowhere. If you’re in this situation, here are a few tips; regardless of gender.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• partner
• intention

How to Cuddle

1. Set the mood (mystical): You need to put it out into the world when you need anything; money, a better job, a quiet neighbor, or the health of an ailing friend or relative. You always here about these stories of people who just ask the ether; an angel, the close and deceased, their God; for something and miraculously it happens? Some would call that Karma, others would call it energy, and the Beach Boys might label it Good Vibrations. Whatever your feeling on the matter, letting the universe know that you’re in need is the first place to start.
2. Set the mood (literal): Once you’ve put out that energy then you need to set aside a special time to get your snuggle on. It may be cooking dinner, setting the right lighting, cleaning your house, lighting a candle, putting on some soft tunes, or just being ready and available when your loved one comes in the door. If you’re up to your elbows in The New York Times, myspace, or MSNBC you can bet that your significant other will just breeze by you with a lofty “hello.” But if you are ready for them when they turn the doorknob and this is an out of the ordinary activity; they’ll know something is up. And they’ll respond in kind.
3. Open up: If you’re sitting, legs crossed, with your arms all tied up in knots or if the second they enter the room you begin pacing all over the place and knocking things over, you can bet that they will not be very receptive to your advances. This could start a fight; especially if they blow you over when you most need love. So remember to be ready to receive.
4. Ask: This is the kicker. Often times when you need to be close to the one you love, the biggest obstacle is getting those words out. Just ask! If you are able to set the proper mood, even if you’re catching them off guard, if they are at all respectful and understanding they will very likely be ready for you and be able to love you the way you need, when you need it most.

Tips & Warnings

• open up
• remember who you're asking
• remember what you're asking
• ask
• don't accept status quo
• don't expect things to just come to you