How to Adjust to Children Leaving Home

Whether your child is off to college or finally moving out to live on his own; regardless of how much you may have been anticipating this time, this normal life transition requires you to make some adjustments in your own life.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

1. Realize that whether or not you have a career, taking care of your child was your primary job. It is normal to feel some sadness as the definition of your "job" changes.
2. Realize that you have raised your child well enough so that she is able to leave. You have given her both roots and wings.
3. Don't compare your feelings to those of other parents. Each person experiences loss differently.
4. Eat healthy and exercise. You no longer need to stock the refrigerator "for the kids." Make wise choices.
5. Support your child as he begins to manage his own life. Be a mentor, not a manager.
6. Let your child know that you will always be there for her.
7. Use technology wisely. Email, texting and instant messaging are wonderful ways to stay in touch and still allow each of you to have your space.
8. Find a new interest or hobby. Seeing you move on in your life will help you adjust to your child moving on in her life. It also serves as a good role model for your child.

Tips & Warnings

• Be aware that sometimes fathers have an even more difficult time with the adjustment. Mothers tend to anticipate it earlier and thus begin to prepare. Dads often are shocked when there's no one there to watch baseball with them.