Things You'll Need:
- a willingness to adjust
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Step 1
Understanding: Although you cannot make anyone 100% happy, you can do your part in making your wife feel special and appreciated. The wife (like the husband) has a unique and key role in the marital partnership. In my opinion, the wife brings the sunshine into the relationship. If she feels abandoned, neglected, or otherwise unappreciated it will be difficult for her to maintain that positive ambiance.
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Step 2
Appreciation: Women need the small things that may be easily overlooked. A phone call in the middle of the day for no reason; fresh flower arrangements; date night; unexpected tokens of affection, etc. Keep note of her interests and use them to personalize your surprises i.e. if she's dieting do not get her chocolates.
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Step 3
Acknowledgement: You may not understand her emotional needs but you definitely need to acknowledge them. Take the time to actively listen to her. Be the initiator of conversations. Be nonjudgmental with your opinions.
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Step 4
Pick your Battles: Let the small things pass. Arguing or a domineering attitude will only fester and eventually poison the love you share. If it irritates you that she isn't the best housekeeper, try to hire help or help clean up when you have time. Remember that you are not perfect either. Was it her laugh you fell in love with or her clean kitchen?
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Step 5
Tell her you love her everyday. Tell others you love her. Hearing it and saying it will keep the love alive. Love is a chain reaction. The more love you give the more love you receive.
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Comments
thepickah said
on 10/5/2009 You're so right.
I do almost all that I can for him and it is always that feeling of being unappreciated that keeps me depressed about myself and where my life is heading. I wish my partner could understand that without me having to tell him.
counselor40 said
on 7/31/2009 Ellis Christina - I love your piece. Recommended!!!!
Please read my piece on the topic too.
sarahpb said
on 5/17/2009 Practical!
aerografista said
on 3/4/2009 Great advice. I wish more men would take the time to read about the women they love. I think a lot of marriages and romance gets lost because women feel under-appreciated. Good on any men reading this article to better himself!
Susanh said
on 6/18/2008 Fantastic!