How to Win a Custody Battle

In response to winning a custody battle here are some must dos...

Things You'll Need

• patience
• a good attorney
• wisdom
• love for your children
• attorney fees

Instructions

1. Evaluation: Participating in a custody dispute is not about winning, it is about what is in the best interests of the children. If you genuinely feel that you are the primary caregiver and can provide the most time and energy for your children and that there will be the least amount of disturbance in their lives by being with you then proceed with step 2.

2. Advocacy: Hire an experienced family law attorney who is in the jurisdiction of the case and who has been recommended to you from a former client. Your attorney will prove invaluable as he/she will know the courts and judges and their local rules etc. They will also be able to guide you and advise you how to and how not to act.

3. Balance: Remain balanced and calm. Always think of the best interests of the children. Never disparage the other parent. Always follow the court orders. Keep accurate and consistent records regarding the children, exchanges etc. Do not attack the other parent in court; remember that this is about the children and their futures. This is NOT a playground for displaying anger toward your ex.

4. Counseling: Suggest court ordered counseling for both the children and parents. Everyone is being injured during these proceedings. Keep injury to a minimum.

5. Court Orders: Remember that any arrangement made is only temporary. Eventually the children will mature and may change households.
   Your relationship with your children is what you make of it. Be kind and patient to all involved and NEVER put the children in the middle.

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Tips & Warnings

• If possible work out custody arrangements thru a mediator as it will save time, money and will take into consideration the wishes of both parents.

• If possible have a third party participate in the exchange of the children to keep conflict to a minimum.