How to Lower Your Stress Level During the Holidays

The holidays are over. And perhaps you are breathing a sigh of relief. December can bring about an inordinate amount of stress, which results in some collapsing on their sofas as soon as January 1 rolls around. There are ways to avoid such stress, however, which can make the holiday season a whole lot jollier and much more meaningful for you and your family. Read on to learn how to lower your stress levels during the holidays.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• A shopping plan for the new year
• Some bath salts or bubbles
• Some CDs of relaxing music
• Candles
• A good masseuse
• Soothing herbal tea
• A babysitter, if applicable
• Close family or friends

1. Go shopping throughout the year. Try and keep this in mind whenever you go into a store, during any month, and anywhere you happen to be. If you see something in April that you think would be perfect for your dear Aunt Sophie, then by all means, grab it right then. You might think, “Oh, well, the holidays are so far away, do I really want this rattling around my house for all that time?” But the fact is, you’ll be happy to have it later. Once November comes around, and you have much more time to do the “fun” things---baking, cooking, having parties, being with friends--you’ll realize what a wonderful thing it is to have your shopping completed. Wrap your gifts as you buy them, and you’ll feel even better. A year-long shopping plan is also great for your budget. Instead of getting a whole lot of gifts all at the same time, you’ll spend here and there, and so won’t break the bank all at once. Your credit card will love you for it, too, as you will most likely not use it as much as if you had to spend the money in one or two months. Your creditors won’t like it too much, though--but that’s OK.
2. Take time for yourself, and treat yourself to indulging moments, such as long, hot baths. Add bubbles, salts, or whatever else you might like. Put some soothing music on, light some candles, and soak away. Try to empty your mind of all stresses, worries, and issues of the day, and just be in the moment. Everything will be much more manageable if you are in a relaxed state of mind.
3. Treat yourself to a good massage. Yes, they can be expensive. But if you reserve the visit to this time of year, it will be worthwhile. Visit a local spa to get a brochure, or ask around to see if anyone you know can give you a recommendation. Make sure it’s local, so that you don’t have to travel too far, thus adding to your stress level. (Who wants to muck around in holiday traffic?) After your massage, go home and have a cup of tea. Put your feet up. Read a book. If you have children, get a sitter for the afternoon, so that you have plenty of time to sit and feel the results of your massage. You’ll feel invigorated and rejuvenated.
4. Ask for help. If you’re in over your head, feel pressure and stress, your work level is on overdrive, or you’re having trouble with a relationship, ask a friend or close family member to help you sort it out by talking it over, or spending time doing something fun. The holidays are notoriously difficult at times if you are having a personal issue, especially with all the talk of togetherness and peace. For the month of December, try to let go of anything that is bothering you. Try not to put the extra pressure on yourself of resolving a relationship problem, or getting something done that can be put on hold until after the holidays are over. Only do what you need to do. If something that you wanted to get done goes by the wayside, just let it go and do it later, if you must.

Tips & Warnings

• Engage in activities that help you feel the spirit of the season. Sing songs that uplift you. Go for a walk in the snow, in the mountains, or by the ocean. Bake cookies. Donate gifts for the needy. Volunteer at a local shelter. Give to charity. Hug your kids. Do whatever is meaningful for you, to help you feel deeper joy during a potentially stressful time.
• Try to stay away from the more commercial aspect of the holidays. This alone can be a major stress factor. Avoid loud, busy places, such as a mall or a grocery store during the weekend. However, some people enjoy this kind of hustle-bustle, putting them more in the spirit. If this is the case for you, then try and visit the mall or other public place when it’s not quite so crowded--on a weekday evening or morning, if you have the time. You’ll still get the feel for the bustling holiday season, while avoiding the excess noise and potential pushing and shoving that inevitably comes with crowds.