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Step 1
Determine early on what you want from this man. If you are looking to have a fun, physical relationship, odds are better that this will work than if you are looking for a committed involvement.
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Step 2
Communicate with your partner what your boundaries are once you determine what you want. Be very clear with what you will and will not tolerate from him and from the relationship.
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Step 3
Establish a communication schedule, and stick to that to avoid possible exposure of the relationship. This includes letters, emails, text messages and phone calls.
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Step 4
When meeting in person, it is best to meet someplace private, not only to avoid being seen, but also to avoid the feeling of “sneaking around.”
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Step 5
Be respectful of his other commitments, including his wife and family obligations. If you want to make the relationship work, you have to give him room for his other relationship.
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Step 6
Remember that his wife is not the enemy; in many ways she is the victim.
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Step 7
Recognize that there will be emotionally trying moments, but enjoy the time you have with him, and reassess the situation if you find that this is not the kind of relationship you want to be in.
Comments
mom09 said
on 10/31/2009 Why does it's easy to love a married man than a single guy?
simpleminds said
on 8/21/2009 Marriage is not sacrosanct, two people have the karma to be together and get married but this karma can end too and karma with someone else can get activated. Since we all have relationships with everyone else from previous lives this should not be shocking. However, by breaking their commitment the people involved are creating karma to be hurt themselves in the future. Also any anger and jealousy involved is bad for everyone.
If kids are involved the two people have a responsibility to provide a stable start for their children. It may be in these circumstances that some partners turn a blind eye to preserve the existing relationship or the person cheating might not end the get a divorce. But it is complicated because the cheating person has a responsibility to both partners.
We are human beings and so we suffer. In a way I think the West has a big problem in insisting on end...
sewmomg said
on 8/12/2009 uh, I am truly amazed that there is even an article on "How to be the Other woman". Also, I am amazed that people are really saying she isn't to blame for the break up of the marriage. Get a grip, she most certainly has as much to blame as the man!! If women would bind together in society and respect other people's commitments, more marriages might be saved. But when loose women make it easy for a man to walk away from his family and his obligations, they are contributing just as much as he is. The consolation here is that the rat she's with will someday do to the new woman what he did to the one before, so she will know what it felt like to be betrayed by her mate and another woman.
babyd143 said
on 7/5/2009 Destiny...
icyfyah said
on 6/30/2009 THE OTHER WOMAN DIDNT PULL YOUR FAMILY APART, UR FATHE DID! HONEY I KNOW ITS ALWAYS EASIER TO PLACE THE BLAME ON THE WOMAN BUT WHY ARE U SO ANGRY AT HER? I'LL TELL YOU WHY! ITS BECAUSE YOU DONT LOVE HER, U LOVE UR FATHER AND U ARE SO HURT BY HIM LEAVING YOU'D LIKE TO BELIEVE HE WOULD HAVE NEVER LEFT IF IT WASNT FOR THIS HARLOT, MISTRESS=MYSTERY WOMAN, AND HER EVIL WORKINGS. PLEASE REEVAULATE UR EMOTIONS AND REDIRECT YOUR HOSTILITIES TOWARD THE RIGHT PERSON. THE ONE WHO ABANDONED YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!
LET ME ASK YOU THIS... WOULD IT HAVE BEEN ANY EASIER IF YOUR FATHER WOULD HAVE DID IT LIKE THEY DID IT BACK IN THE OLD DAYS...STATE IM GOING TO THE STORE FOR A LOAD OF BREAD AND NEVER RETURN... THEN WHAT WOULD BE YOUR THOUGHTS? WHO WOULD YOU BE MAD AT THEN? EXACTLY!! WHAT WOULD BE DIFFERENT? NOTHING CAUSE GONE IS GONE!
SO YOU SEE, SHE IS NOT YOUR TRAGEDY IT SELFISH BLANK OF A DAD IS. H...