Self-esteem plays a critical role in our lives. It is the foundation of our self-value. Nathaniel Branden, psychotherapist, author, and pioneer in the field of self-esteem, argues that “Of all the judgments that we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves, for that judgment touches the very center of our existence.” How an individual views herself affects the fabric of relationships, academic and career decisions, success, health, and a general attitude about life.
Be honest with yourself. To overcome low self-esteem, you must be honest with yourself regarding how you really feel about who you are. Think about whether you view yourself as worthwhile and deserving, and if your outer life reflect this view. Consider whether you are living in peace, love, health, and abundance. Ask yourself if your support system as a child was critical or supportive. Think about the kind of relationships that are in your life--supportive or destructive--and whether they bring you energy or sap your energy. Are you happy with your personal achievements? Are you living in your divine, right livelihood? Do you feel enthusiasm and divine energy in your life?
Step2
Identify and examine what areas in your life are contributing to or diminishing your self-esteem. These may be subtle or in-your-face situations that have or are contributing to low self-esteem. Also check your childhood for areas or old negative programming that you may need to clear.
Step3
Take steps to move away from or change your reaction to and/or interaction with people or situations that are taxing your self-worth. You may find that there are people or situations that undermine your happiness and self-worth. You may need to change how you interact with these people or situations or get away from them entirely.
Step4
See a counselor if you need additional support. Counseling can be a very effective avenue for clearing old programming and replacing it with new, positive information. A counselor may help you see that others cannot determine your value. You do.
Step5
Use affirmations to change your attitude about yourself. You do have value and may need to use daily affirmations to help support your new belief system about who you are. For example you may use this affirmation daily: “I am valuable regardless of what may have happened to me as a child. The adults in my life didn’t know everything and now I can choose to see my value. I can change my life and myself. I now choose a healthier view of myself and take steps to change my life to reflect my new beliefs about who I am and my value.”
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