Step1
Manipulating someone is easy. Manipulating someone to do your bidding is a little trickier. Why would someone willingly do something that you want them to do? Maybe you could do it in such a way that they are not cognizant they are doing it. That is the ultimate goal of manipulating people to do your bidding.
Step2
How would someone attain that? Is there some magic formula? Is it in someone’s disposition? It could be a little of everything. The first rule of thumb is that being pushy is not manipulation, it is being a bully and I despise bullies. Being forced to do something against your will because someone is making you do it is wrong. You need to do it in such a way that they are unaware that you are doing it.
Step3
The objective is to get on someone’s good side. You should let them think that you are a person that can be trusted. (I want to state here that I am unequivocally nice and never do something that could harm someone else. Well, one time I did, but would never do it again.) Gaining someone’s trust is essential. Make sure it is genuine. Build up a rapport with the person and compliment them whenever necessary. After a while where you feel comfortable that you are trustworthy you can begin to experiment.
Step4
The first experiment should be an easy one. If it is a co worker, ask that person if he or she would mind getting you a cup of coffee. However, the wording must make them feel important enough so they will do it. For example, if I had built up a co worker trust and want to experiment with a cup of coffee, I would say, “Hey Tim, I know you are extremely busy and the boss is on your ass but I am having caffeine withdrawal really bad. I am right in the middle of something. Would you (Not could you, but would you) get me a cup of coffee?” Nine out of ten times (Unless he or she is a jerk) that person will do it.
Step5
Then you could do a step further. Make sure you still are friendly with the person and even help them out if they need something. You could ask them to go to a golf store after work and ask them to help you pick out a club. When you get there ask them questions to see how much or little they know about the sport. Flatter them if they are knowledgeable. If they are not, flatter them anyway by telling them that they are probably a natural and not even know it.
Step6
By now, you are probably wondering how you could manipulate someone in that scenario. Well, make sure you have some cash on you and do a little research to see how much a particular club costs that you admire. Tell the person how much you admire the club. Speak passionately and reverently. When it is time to go to the register, make sure you are short two or three dollars. Chances are the other person will supply it. While that may seem mean and cruel, I am not suggesting anyone go further than that. I do not want someone continually asking me to do something and I would get suspicious real quick.
Step7
Twenty five years ago I employed that strategy to a deeper degree. I wanted to see if I could make two people get into an argument for the sheer and utter hell of it. I was a great deal different back then and I was trying to see how far I could push two people without them realizing I was the cause. Needless to say I did it with ease and it really scared me I had that much influence on people. To this day they are still unaware it was me who caused their disagreement.
To manipulate people is easy, just do not do it for the wrong reasons. Getting your way is fine as long as the other person is not adversely affected by it.
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