Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Step1
There is a clear distinction between placating your spouse and kissing his or her ass. The latter one grovels to him or her and that can be deemed unsightly. You do not have to let him or her get their way all the time. On the contrary, appeasing your spouse can actually help you.
Step2
If you pacify your spouse all the time and then you want to do something, or go somewhere that he or she does not, then you can explain to them how many times he or she always gets their way. If they are the controlling type, then you have a situation on your hands where you could insist. I am not advocating getting into a ruckus with your significant other because he or she may have a point. It they know you want to go out with your friends and are known to drink and get rowdy, then there is good cause for the other person not to want you to go somewhere. I cannot argue with that, nor would I. A DUI or being arrested is not what a good time should be all about.
Step3
One example is to butter up your significant other. Let me point out here that is should be genuine because the other person will know, whether or not they say so. Being nice and compliment the appearance of the individual or something that sticks out that you like, mention it. It will go along way in smoothing out an evening. Being courteous can help.
Step4
The one thing that probably is the biggest stumbling block in placating your spouse is to admit you are wrong if the situation warrants it. I cannot believe the arguments I have heard at restaurants, or any other public venue where one spouse is clearly refusing to admit they did anything erroneous. While I could care less what they were talking about, it is refreshing when I hear one partner admit that they could be wrong.
Step5
Placating to your spouse is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength when you have the integrity to admit that you are wrong, give genuine compliments and being courteous.
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