How to Plan a Safe Escape From Domestic Violence

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If you're currently in a domestic violence situation right now, then keep reading. Following I will give you some tips on how you can plan a safe escape from domestic violence, but first, please know this: I know from my own past experience with domestic violence that this is one of the hardest things you will do. However, I assure you life is better outside of the abuse. It may take time to get through it all, and in the beginning, it may not be easy, but all you have to do is pray for God's help. In addition, you can turn to your family and friends for support. Moreover, use the services that are available to victims of domestic violence. Kind people have created and funded these services for you, so don't be shy about asking for help, that's what they're there for. Now, read on to learn how to plan a safe escape from domestic violence.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

A safe place to hide out
Phone number to a local domestic violence shelter
Phone number to your local police department
A divorce attorney
Restraining order
Small suitcase or bag

Step1

I'm sure there are many times your partner leaves you alone--whether it's for him to go to work, cheat or just run around. During one of these times, have a friend or family member come over and help you and your children (if you have them) get out. If you have no friends or family members to assist you, call the local police, or you can even seek aid through a local shelter for domestic violence victims. No matter whom you choose to help you, make sure they know about your plan ahead of time so that everyone involved can schedule a time.

Step2

Pack a small suitcase or bag to take with you. Only put what you really need in the bag for now (medication, diapers for the baby and other important items). Then later, after you file for divorce, an officer can accompany you to the home to collect the rest of the things you will be entitled to.

Step3

Obtain a restraining order if you feel your life is or will be in danger. Restraining orders are also good if your partner begins harassing you.

Step4

Stay with a friend or family member, or go to a local shelter for domestic violence victims.

Step5

Finally, just as soon as you possibly can, obtain an attorney and file for divorce.

Tips & Warnings

If you don't know of a domestic violence shelter in your area, post a comment below (you can post anonymously) to let me know the city and state you're from. Once I get this information, I'll see what I can find in your local area, and within 24 to 48 hours, I'll respond back to you in the comments section. So be sure to re-visit this article for any responses I may have for you.
Don't put this off. If you're a domestic violence victim, start planning your escape today.

Comments

mrs75 said

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on 4/4/2008 Dear Mister-M, I agree with you 100% when you say it's unfair that many domestic violence shelters only serve women. There should be more shelters for men, because there are just as many men out there who are victims as well as women. It's sad that there's not more services for abused men, and many men may not speak up because of this and other reasons.

As soon as I get the time, I will research to see just how many shelters and services I can find that help men who are victims of domestic violence. If I'm able to produce anything, I will write a new article and post it here. I'll leave a comment on this article leading to that one so you'll know.

If you asked these questions because you're a victim, I encourage you to plan your escape and speak out for yourself as well as other men. If you can find a family member or friend to help you hideout -- and one you can trust -- don't h

Mister-M said

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on 4/3/2008 Your article gives some sage advice, but I do have some questions and concerns. Given that recent studies are beginning to expose the reality that women are just as likely to initiate domestic violence as men, how does a man go about finding a domestic violence shelter that will aid him?

I know of a scant few in this country, let alone my own locality... and most domestic violence shelters only serve women - which is decidedly unfair to male victims of domestic violence.

Mister-M

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