How to Become an Immediate Family
If you are about to marry someone who has custody of children, don't expect to lead the life of a newlywed. As soon as you say "I do," the honeymoon is over and the responsibility of having a family has begun. The following are some steps to help you ease into this new and somewhat trying territory. Try to remember you are about to embark on a life journey.
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Don't forget you are newlyweds and it is imperative you take time for one another. Perhaps you can work this out for weekends the former spouse has the children. If your new spouse is widowed or the children are on different visiting schedules, find a babysitter and use those services at least once a month.
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Be prepared to deal with the former spouse. Very seldom do divorced couples get along and even if they do, having another person walk into the mix may cause some hesitation and possibly even hard feelings.
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Try to have an open mind and remember your new child is used to things being done a certain way. He may tell you that you are doing something wrong because he truly thinks you are. Be patient and explain that people do things differently.
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Take time with both child and husband, separately and alone. It is important that you get to know the child that is now partly your responsibility. Spend time with just him and with just your spouse.
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If having a child together is in the plans don't wait until it is happening to talk to your step child about the possibility of a new brother or sister in future. Be certain to reassure her that this doesn't mean she will be forgotten or pushed aside. It only means there will be more people in her life to love her.
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