How to Deal with people out to get you

Did you ever notice how certain people are always saying rude stuff to you? Or they make you feel bad? Learn to cut the losses and when to hang on.

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

1. Let me start off with, negative people thrive on making other people negative. Some people like to break up marriages, other people like to get people fired, still others like to make you feel bad. In a nut shell, misery likes company.

2. First, recognize people for who they truly are. Are they always negative, if you tell them something wonderful, are they always the first ones to tell you it's not going to work? Are they dream killers? Are they just plain rude? Do they constantly say mean or criticizing things?

3. Believe it or not, but unhappy people like to see other people unhappy. Single friends want their married friends to be single. I've seen it before where a group of friends all have boyfriends, than one gets dumped, and a chain-reaction is started where they end up dumping their boyfriends to hang out with the single friend.
   
   Or, someone is jealous of you at work, so they go out of their way to complain about you, or try to get you in trouble for things.

4. To stop this, you need to really see people for who they truly are. If if they are family, cut your losses. If your mother only wants to see you pregnant and on welfare because that would make her happy, cut her out of your life. If your friend only wants you to be single and party with her, and has nothing nice to say about any of your boyfriends, recognize that she's a hater and move on.
   Or if your coworker is always getting you in trouble, start a list to protect yourself. Alway document your interraction to give her nothing to hold on you. Be up front with your boss, tell him that you feel she is out to get you.

5. People aren't always friendly. Some are great at pretending to be your friend while they are stabbing you in the back. One girlfriend I had claimed to be my best friend, but would turn around and sleep with my exs, or try to get my latest crush before I got him! In the end, it took my boyfriend pointing out what a winner she was, for me to really see it. Sometimes love is blind.
   
   As long as you know who is real, and who isn't, you'll know how to act accordingly. And always get a second opinion. If your friend tells you she doesn't like your boyfriend and you should dump him, ask why. Get as much detail as possible, than go ask another friend or family member what you they think.
   
   To protect yourself you need to recognize people for who they really are. And unfortunately a lot of people are selfish and takers. They want you like them, miserable. Look for positive happy people, that's who I get my energy from when I'm low.

[RavenLB]

on 2/13/2009 5 stars all the way. The harsh truth, doesn't get any realler than that, lol! Good Job!