How to Discuss Sex Problems With a Counselor

Sex counselors are trained psychotherapists that have extensive training in dealing with sexual issues. Although most counselors can make you feel comfortable, talking about sex can still feel taboo and uncomfortable. Discussing sex problems with a counselor takes trust and honesty. Consider the advice below next time you have an appointment with a sex counselor.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Learn something about your counselor before you open up about your sex problems. Find out their philosophies and feelings about sex and make sure they mesh with your own.

2. Be honest with the counselor. Don't hide any facts or make the problem seem less than it is. The counselor can't help you if they don't know the whole story.

3. Describe other issues you may have beyond the sexual. Some sex problems stem from emotional or mental issues that affect sexuality.

4. Have your partner go with you to the sex therapist. If you're in a committed relationship, both of you should attend sessions so the therapist can discuss sex problems you both have.

5. Complete all exercises or assignments the counselor gives you. Sex therapy involves at-home exercises you do, and then you can discuss how those exercises made you feel. This can help the counselor pinpoint any problems.

Tips & Warnings

• Terminate any session that involves touching or nudity in the therapy session. Any physical contact should be assigned as an at-home exercise for you and your partner. Find another counselor if they insist on getting physical in the office.

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